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A Parent is...

Updated on August 20, 2014

A Parent is...

According to the dictionary, a parent is a father or a mother, one who gives birth or nurtures and raises a child, or a relative who plays the role of a guardian. To me personally, a parent is the one that holds you when you cry, the one that reassures you when you are worried, the one that spends time with you, the one that gives love without expecting any back. It is that person that holds your hand, the one to tell you that you are special and allow you to shine.

All children have parents, meaning the two biological parents that, through fertilization, new offspring were created. But not all children have two parents in the same home or the actual people that conceived them. The situation is different for every child and every parent out there. That should not be an obstacle or a reason for bad relationships and unhappy households. Life is different for everyone but it is our own and it’s unique.Let’s not judge others and compare our lives with theirs. We are all different and we can learn from each other. Nobody has a magic recipe or a secret guide on how to be the best parent. This is an ongoing learning process and needs a lifetime to complete. There shouldn’t be a measure of parenthood but a measure of effort. As roles models we feel like we are being watched by the experts but all this is nonsense. Nobody knew how to be a parent before they became one!

Being a parent is like suddenly you have been blessed with the most amazing job in the world. It is like you have been given the keys to a treasure box. You feel that you hold the key to humanity and the secret to something that other people don’t know or have. But it is not always like that and we find ourselves guilty for feeling different at times. It’s ok though, because we are only human and not machines. In the little time that I have been a parent, I have not always felt like that. I have felt sometimes a sense of frustration or a level of tiredness that I never felt before. I have also felt extreme happiness and butterflies in my stomach.

Sometimes, I think parenthood as something sweet and sour! I love it but I am trying always to find myself in this new journey of my life. The reminder that I have a little daughter that is dependent on me is the key to being a parent. I wake up everyday thinking about that and I explore all the different ways that I can teach her about life and show her how to be independent. It is not only that though, there is much more that I have to provide. A parent is on-call all the time and your main priority is your child. Among the difficulties that parents might have in their everyday life, is the constant reminder of the important job we have undertaken. We question ourselves about how good or bad we are in our roles as parents and there are always so many things that we would like to be doing with our children. Sometimes we have to stop and think! There is nobody out there that is keeping a time watch and checking when and how we are doing things. It is all in our heads! Our child is growing up and we sometimes wonder how it happened. We did it! We are responsible and we re doing the best we can. We could be doing more, we could be saying more and we could be teaching our kids more but we never stop being parents. Therefore, there is not a deadline to do or say or teach certain things to your child. From the moment we become parents, we will always be parents. So, I know that whatever I am doing now is as important as what I will be doing in 5, 10, 20, 30 years down the line. I will always give my love, attention and constant support to my child. She will grow up and have her own family, but she will still be my daughter and I will always be her mother.


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      DemiT 5 years ago from Greece

      Thanks CrisSp about your comment, and yes I do agree that it is a never ending thing to add is that...I love it and it makes me a fuller and better person!

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Yes, indeed! Parenthood could be something sweet and sour. The most challenging job in the world and no one can refute that. Hence, not everyone is capable to be a parent and I hope people do not confuse that by simply being a biological parent. There's definitely more into it and it comes with huge responsibilities.

      I have two grown ups now and yet I don't consider myself a graduate on parenting because truly, it's a never ending career. I love it though and will never trade it for anything else in the world.

      Good luck in your journey. Enjoy the ride!

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      DemiT 5 years ago from Greece

      Thank you billybuc for the lovely comment. I am up for the journey and I am looking forward to all the exciting and challenging moments!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is a truly amazing journey, one that touches every facet of being a human being. You are in for quite a journey my friend; enjoy every minute of it.