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A Shower for Mom: Finding Ways to Relax

Updated on June 19, 2013

Let There Be Chaos

My bundles of boundless energy.
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Beginning the Morning on the Right Foot

I get up in the morning and would like to take a nice soothing, relaxing shower, but the baby needs nursing and my girls are ready for something to do. They’ve already eaten because I have a variety of healthy snacks available for their consumption. This is thanks to my husband who mentioned during one of my more rested moments that life would be easier if we had snacks available for the girls’ to eat. (He might have mentioned it earlier too but I was too tired to notice.)

So I nurse the baby while starting my girls on their school work for the day. (It took me awhile to master this bit of multitasking.) Now the baby has been fed and burped and is quietly resting in his bouncy chair. (It has a vibration mode that helps sooth him to sleep.) The girls are diligently working on their school work and should be able to work on their own for the next several minutes. So, with a sigh of relief I head to the bathroom.

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Can I have 10 Minutes, Please?

About five minutes in, just enough time for me to get wet and soapy, the baby starts to fuss. I guess I won’t be relaxing after all and I begin to speed up my process. Then I hear my girls starting to fight. They can play well together, but they also have their moments of colossal sibling rivalry. Their brother starts to scream – presumably to be heard over his sisters’ noise and I start throwing on whatever clothes I can find without fully drying.

Being a grown adult you would think that I would have realized by now that rushing like that only slows you down. But when you are frantic you tend to forget things (particularly when you are sleep deprived). So I fought my way into my clothes, which kept sticking to my wet skin, surrounded by a cacophony of children’s screams. And I found myself wondering when I would be getting a peaceful, relaxing shower again.

You Need to Relax!

With this baby being my third child I thought I knew what I was getting myself into. However, it is easy to forget the pressures a newborn presents – the near constant attention a baby needs, perhaps because that time is gone so quickly. A few short months and you find yourself looking back nostalgically wishing it weren’t over. We forget the sleep deprived haze that we had been walking about in and the lack of relaxing showers (or relaxing of any kind for that matter) and instead focus on the beautiful baby faces in the photographs. Suddenly we are asking ourselves, “Why didn’t I stop and enjoy my baby more when I had the chance?”

All this to say, take a few moments for yourself. Ask a friend or family member to watch the kids for a few moments and take that time to relax. Forget about the groceries you need to buy, the dishes that need washing, the laundry that needs folding. Let all that go and take several deep relaxing breaths.

Once you’ve found your peace again you will be better able to enjoy the chaos that is babyhood. You’ll be able to take your half-wet self and sooth your crying baby with nonsense syllables that babies seem to love and all moms seem to know. You’ll be able to separate the older siblings and help them work through their fight. And you won’t find your screams adding to the cacophony of noise in your house.

Wishing peace and success for us all!

My Personal Favorite Ways to Relax

There seems to be a million suggestions on how to relax, many of them involving sleep. Sleep is a near impossibility for a new mom (or new again mom). So lets move on to some of the other tips that have worked for me.

  • When you only have a few moments try taking deep breaths. As the kindergarten teacher in our district phrases it, "Smell the flowers then blow out the candle." In other words breath in deeply through your nose before blowing the breath slowly out your mouth.
  • If you have a stress headache (or any kind of headache) reach between your pinkie and ring finger sliding down until you find the hollow. Gently massage on the palm side.
  • Exercise has long been know to reduce stress. Try a few mom and baby exercises.
  • Stay hydrated. Your body is 57% water. Throw off the balance and you will notice. If you are nursing remember to drink an extra glass of water for baby.
  • Eat healthy. With multiple children it is hard to find time to even eat let alone worry about what you are eating. So ask for help. Your friends will love bringing you a meal if it means a chance to see your new bundle of joy. And when you are at one of your saner moments make out a grocery list that includes a lot of quick health foods: nuts, yogurts, ready to eat fruits, etc.
  • While you are at the store consider picking up a little aromatherapy. Lavender scented shower soap can help me relax more under that soothing spray.
  • Meditation has long been recommended for soothing away stress. Take a few moments to rest in the Lord. You've probably already muttered, "Lord, help me!" under your breath but try to stop for a couple of moments and really focus on God.
  • Take a moment to really focus on your baby and play with him. One baby smile makes all that crying worth it.
  • Relaxing photos can also be helpful. Use them to help you focus in on God or use pictures of your babies to remind you why you wanted to be a mom. If that doesn't work find a good beach picture and imagine slipping away there with your husband.
  • Finally try to laugh. A good laugh takes only moments and it can do wonders for your outlook. One that note - check out the video below.

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    • Joy M profile imageAUTHOR

      Joy M 

      5 years ago from Sumner, Washington

      Glad you both enjoyed. I know I need to take breaks myself, but sometimes I just need someone to remind me. :)

    • rebeccamealey profile image

      Rebecca Mealey 

      5 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Boy, did I ever need this years ago. Will pass along this sound advice for the busy parent. Thanks!

    • Toytasting profile image

      Toy Tasting 

      5 years ago from Mumbai

      Joy, it is so true that with kids around moms need to take a break and relax. You have mentioned some great ways to relax. Meditation and deep breathing really acts as a great stress buster for me. Thank you for sharing. Cheers:)

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