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A Thief in the Family
When Things go Missing
If you have ever been the victim of a burglary, you will know just how bad it feels. You feel violated, some stranger has rifled through your personal belongings and you feel like it is a personal attack on you. Being burgled affects some people so badly that they have to move house.
When things start to go missing from your home on a regular basis the horrible realisation soon sets in that someone in your family is stealing from you.
The cookies that you bought for an after dinner treat, your favorite pen, or even a dollar from your purse.
The stolen Items may not be worth much and they may not be valuable but it leaves a bad taste in your mouth, especially if the person who stole the item knows that you would probably have given them it had they just asked you.
What do you do when you suspect one of your family members of stealing from you?
Who Done It?
One of the people you trust more than anyone else in the whole world is stealing from you is like a kick in the teeth, you would do anything for that person and this is how they repay you.
You feel guilty because you suspect everyone in your family but at the same time you cannot think who or even why anyone in your own family would do such a thing.
Finding out who the culprit is becomes your first priority.
If you ask the members of your family who took the items, you will soon realise that the perpetrator is not only a thief but also they are also a liar.
You cannot punish everyone until the thief owns up, because that will only make the innocent parties resent you and make you feel even guiltier.
It is time for you to turn detective and find some evidence that will lead you to the thief, a search of bedrooms is the best place to start.
Look for wrappers, crumbs from the food, or even a new toy that you did not buy, look under mattresses, behind radiators, check in drawers and wardrobes anywhere that evidence can be hidden from view. Children are not that good at hiding evidence and 9 out of 10 times doing a room search will give you the evidence that you are looking for.
Of course, you may not find any evidence in the children’s bedrooms but there are still other places that you can look. The garden is a good place to look but even if you find any evidence there or anywhere, else in the house it is still a question of who put it there in the first place.
Before you confront your children and ask them if they have taken anything it may be a good idea to try to catch them out first by using a hidden video camera in the room where most of the items have gone missing.
If you confront your children before you have gathered any real proof the chances are that the thefts will stop for a few days making it more difficult to track the thief down.
The main thing is to stay patient, your family thief will eventually make a mistake and get caught out at some point.
A Thief in the Family
Have you ever been the victim of a family crime?
Why are You Stealing from Me?
When you discover which family member has been stealing from you, you cannot jump in and punish that person before you find out why they have been taking things; there could be a reason for their mini crime spree. The stealing might just be a cry for help from a child who is in much more serious trouble.
Are they stealing food because of an eating disorder?
Are they stealing money because someone is bullying them or even worse to buy drugs?
Are they stealing just for the sake of stealing? Talk with your child and try to find out what is behind the thefts, remember shouting screaming and threatening will get you nowhere. Stay calm and keep the tone of your voice non-confrontational.
Unless your child is stealing just for the buzz of it, you might need to get some professional help