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A friend for my daughter
My daughter came home from school today at her normal time. She was estatic. She had just finished her book, "The Indian in the Cupboard." She loves to read, but she also loves movies. When she found out the book she was reading was also made into a movie, she couldn't wait to watch it. But there was a condition, she had to finish the book first.
After she was finishing up her homework, she came up to me and said, "Mommy, I have a great idea that I got from The Indian in the Cupboard." I of course asked her what her great idea was. She suggested that when we went back to Wisconsin, she could become blood sisters with her best friend.
She was of course told no. This resulted in a massive amount of tears and a breakdown. She is terribly missing her friends from Wisconsin and is having a hard time making new friends in the new area. While I am not saying she is friendless, she just feels she can't relate to some of the kids she is meeting here.
As an adult, we all understand that making a lifelong friend takes time. It is obvious that you will not find a best friend in a matter of minutes. It takes time to get to know each other. While it is a difficult time for my daughter right now, I have encouraged her to open herself up to the possibilities.
As a young child, emotions can take over. A child doesn't understand that you can have more than one best friend; and just because you make new friends doesn't mean you will forget about the old friends.
While my daughter is shy, I hope she is able to find someone out there with similiar interests that she feels she can relate to. Being a third-grader is difficult. They aren't a child anymore; yet they are not close to adulthood either.
Parenting can be hard. It is even harder when you know that your child's heart is breaking. When my family moved to the Riverside, Californina area the transition was particularly hard on my third grade daughter.
Yet, after living in the area for a while, our family finally found a home that had a great school district. While we no longer live in the Riverside area, we only moved a short distance away to a different city, Hemet. We have had wonderful success in getting both of our children to open up to the possibility of new friends. In fact, you would think they would have never went to school anywhere else.
While we have encouraged our children not to forget old friends, we have also encouraged them to be nice to everybody and keep their hearts open for others they may have common interests with. While some children may make friends easy, others can really be shy. As a parent, it is our job to guide our children in the right direction so they don't feel alone, especially after a move.