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A personal view of adoption. Miracles are awaiting.

Updated on January 8, 2013

40 years ago, you would not adopt this child because he is mixed race.

My son never finished this of my other son--- really cool, he calls it "work in progress" right on! Aren't we all.
My son never finished this of my other son--- really cool, he calls it "work in progress" right on! Aren't we all. | Source

Adopted children are bound to surprise you.

Adoption of a Child

Lately I have heard some interesting takes on adoption. Seems like there are crack babies out there. I hear that there are criminal elements involved in the handling of adoptions. And I hear of heartbreaking stories of young moms not having a clue and suffering their whole life long. Bummer, bummer and more bummer. Legal paperwork and procedures are not easy.

Getting a child on a good path in life is not so easy.

Back in the eighties I was a young aggressive attorney in Southern California. I got involved with this lady from a much more conservative state. She had three problems. Pregnant unwed women. Abused mother and children, by husband. And of course abused and abused pregnant women. Well this lady pulled me into her network to help get them out of their state. To get them to California where laws were more progressive and somewhat women’s rights friendly.

My wife and I “hosted” many of these women. I filed a lot of court paperwork to get them and their children protected and I did some adoption paperwork and hearings and hearings and hearings. That lady and I ran one heck of an underground safe haven program. Did I mention that it was illegal? You see a dad has rights, plain and simple. Back in the eighties he could abuse and endanger and not lose those rights. So the nice lady and I stole the children and women from one jurisdiction and hid them in the paperwork of a more acceptable jurisdiction.

This nice lady adopted me as youngest of six. Her heart and soul were all about nursing.

Beauty sometimes runs heart deep.
Beauty sometimes runs heart deep. | Source

Love is in the blood but not of the blood.

Well I was an officer of the court. The nice lady was a government employee of her state. Needless to say, after a few years they busted us. Not really but they (government) let us know that they knew what we were up to. Their knowing endangered the confidentiality of children and moms so we agreed to stop. Not to mention I would have lost my law license and the nice lady her Nursing License.

So you ask,,, what does this have to do with adoption? Well the truth is that I still get an adoption anniversary (normally called a chosen day card) Sometime I know who from and sometimes not. College graduates, I even got one from a new MD. And the nice lady told me back around 2004 that she had received some from happy grandparents who were the adoptors of some of our children.

I hope that story lets you get a better understanding of adoption when it works right.

Let me give you an example. I was that nice lady’s adopted son. I long ago moved on from lawyering and my mom soars with angels.

Ps I did not make any money off of all that work. But when my mom and wife would hug me and look up into my big browns, I was king of the world.


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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I am so happy. Just think one more chosen child to share the love. Oh my, forget about the world just think about your world and what a wonderful place it will be for her.

      Thanks for making my day. Look around and find my hub on being Chosen and Billybuck has a great one also.

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      Ruth Ferraz 4 years ago from New Jersey

      Hi Ericdierker,

      Thanks for share you story!

      We were motivated to adopt and now we are more!

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      Eric Dierker 5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Oh my goodness -- Mommy sure does need a nap. I just want to come over and hug all your angels. Chosen children are very special. But I find the ones that chose them to be extraordinary souls.

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      Michelle Clairday 5 years ago from Arkansas

      As the mother of 6 adopted children (all out of foster care), I teared up a little when I read this article. I'm sure your mom was very proud of you.

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      Eric Dierker 5 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks SparrowMinistries what you describe was just what my mom faced. The first time the judge pounded the gavel and declared a child was adopted --- was to me, as memorable as my own child being born.

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      SparrowMinistries 5 years ago

      Interesting hub! I agree adoption is not easy. As a former child services worker, I might say that the government makes a terrible parent. We often take kids from bad situations and put them in worse ones. By the time that paperwork is done, if they haven't already aged out, the kids are angry, distrustful, and on a ton of meds. It takes someone with greater than average skills and stamina to make it work. It sounds like you were able to bypass that bureaucracy at least for a little while and bless some kids and parents!