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Adults Get Bullied Too

Updated on April 6, 2012

Adult bullies grew up that way, or experiencing it.

Growing up the wrong way.
Growing up the wrong way. | Source

Oh, kids can be mean, intimidating, even cruel. They steal littler kids bikes and lunches, even beat them up. Schools are working to reduce the bullying, but that leaves neighborhoods, playgrounds, and public events, even church as the wrong kinds of “bully pulpits.” Bullying will continue somewhere to someone as long as there are bullies.

What about adults? Do adults ever outgrow the bullying?

Some mean kids become mean adults. Some kids who were the butt of the cruelties of the bullies, get some little power as adults and resort to adult bullying.

What is spouse abuse, child abuse, child kidnappings, if they are not an extreme of bullying? What is harassment on the job, if it is not bullying? What is purposely driving to cause discomfort to another driver on the road, if it is not a form of bullying? What is black balling someone to deny them a promotion they deserve, if it is not a form of bullying?

Whether as extreme as some forms I have mentioned, or as seemingly minor as others, bullying continues in adulthood, so the sooner we can all get a handle on it at an earlier stage of a personality development, the better for all of us and society.

As always, we wish the schools and educators, counselors and psychologists well.

Parents and siblings must play their roles, too, as well as anyone aware of individuals who practice a bullying lifestyle...before only law enforcement can handle the problems it causes.

© 2012 Demas W. Jasper All rights reserved.


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      Ruth McCollum 5 years ago from Lake Oswego, Oregon

      I was bullied really bad. It's something I'm glad my 15 year old doesn't have to endure. These kids and adults will never have healthy relationships,without some kind of therapy instead of turning a blind eye.

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      daisyjae 5 years ago from Canada

      Bullying sucks whether you are an adult or a kid going through it. Good article, voted up.

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      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      What about when parents bully their grown children?

      I think that happens a lot.

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      Dee aka Nonna 5 years ago

      I know, at least, two adults who grew up to become bullies. It is hard enough to know that kids go through this but to know adult bully kids and other adults. One of the adults I know very well and I have talked with him on a few occasions and always the talking helps (short term). I am prayful that eventually...sooner rather than later something will happen to send the message home in a way that he will decide to change.

      Really enjoyed reading this hub. Voted up.

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      Demas W Jasper 5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Sueswan: That would certainlyu be an interesting conversation! I hope you can find some of them and record their responses for us to ponder. One girl in elementary school was in tears for "teasing" (another name for bullying?) over her family name of "Hamburger."

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      Sueswan 5 years ago

      I was bullied as a child. Nothing compared to what kids go through nowadays.

      I hope those who bullied me grew up to be decent human beings. If I ever come across any of them, I would ask why did they do it?

      Voted up and awesome.

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      Demas W Jasper 5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      Espress 10: We all recognize bullies and bullying, so we "know it when we see it" and need to find a nice way to do what WD Curry 111 did: make a difference. You are right that bullies in the workplace should be aided in finding another profession, if they cannot act professionaly where they are. They do unacceptable harm to their own business, or the one that is paying them.

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      Demas W Jasper 5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      WD Curry 111: Three cheers for Sir Lancelot! Taking time to interact with as many people as possible makes life more satisfying. We all need to be careful not to imitate poor behaviors we recognize.

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      Demas W Jasper 5 years ago from Today's America and The World Beyond

      ALUR: I know you have the experience to deal with the tween in your life and help him find a better, happier, safer path of consideration for others. In a Nursery class at church one little girl was "a biter"! One day a new girl joined the class who was a bully, too. The "biter" came to the teacher and said "I need some help!" (Good teaching moment, that one!)

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      H C Palting 5 years ago from East Coast

      Awesome, useful, and voted up. It is very important that adults speak their minds tactfully and not resort to bullying tactics. Particularly in the workplace, something this preventable can literally cost companies major money due to people quitting, not coming in, or avoiding assignments just to avoid bullying.

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      WD Curry 111 5 years ago from Space Coast

      I grew up in an Air Force family. Sometimes I started two new schools a year. I was taught to fight. It worked out well for the most part. If bullies know you are game and can hurt them, they are more likely to choose someone more helpless to direct their aggression towards. Even if you thwart an aggressor, the experience can give you nightmares.

      A Man was so rude to the lady clerk at the market the other day, I made him apologize. Was I an adult bully, or a modern Sir Lancelot?

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      ALUR 5 years ago from USA

      I'm in my early 40's and my own tween tries to bully. Resolve, confidence no matter what age helps keep the bullies at bay. Believe it or not even showing them some compassion.