Who Raises Your Kids?
Quality Time = Happy Family
Spend a little time...
Welcome to Earth, I brought you here!
What has happened in the short time that has passed since I have been a child? America is crumbling and we can point at politicians and blame video games but I think its time that we look a little closer to home (you know, that place where all of the members of one family are supposed to spend time together and eat together). I grew up in the days when families went for bike rides together, played board games (what are those???), went to parks, had picnics. Sure maybe the average family size has declined over the past 10-20 years, but we still keep having kids, we just don't want to parent or don't know how. I know, I know... all the parents out there (including me) are getting defensive now, but are really parenting? A note on the table that dinner is in the microwave or sending your kid off with 20 bucks to get something to eat because we won't be home for dinner isn't exactly the kind of "family time" that I remember. Passing by each other a couple of times a day with a smooch that is lucky to connect the lips? Eating dinner in front of the tv? Breakfast...what's that? Have your kids ever seen you on a bike or have grass stains on your knees? Do you know at least 3 of your child's best friends and their one arch enemy? Do you know their favorite food, color, song and movie? Do they know about all of your sappy memories? If we aren't the number one person raising our children, then the world will do it for us. Considering the place that America has found itself in, I don't think that will bring ideal results.
Our brains are continuing to develop until at least age 25. If our children aren't capable of fully understanding things like long-term consequences or coping strategies then we need to be making some of their decisions for them. We can only hope that in doing so, they will learn how to make similarly appropriate decisions when the time comes that would require them to do so. Kids count down the days until they turn 18 and think when they do they're grown ups and must know everything. That is so far from the truth!!! It is during this time that they couldn't need us more.
Brains continue growing well after we retire the growth charts
- HowStuffWorks "Teenage Brain Development"
Teenage brain development is like an entertainment center that hasn't been fully hooked up. Learn about teenage brain development and the prefrontal cortex.
It is our relationships that we have with our children, from in the womb to the day we die that give them the tools and strength they will need to get through life. I absolutely believe in hard love. Children shouldn’t be coddled and spoiled but they mustn’t be neglected or abused. We need to love hard, love and acceptance need to be obvious. We need to give our children rules and guidelines, boundaries and consequences. They will respect us later for giving them the best of both worlds later. I have witnessed and been victim to doing it all the wrong ways. There is a wrong way and a right way; we just individualize these in our own homes. Reach out and grab your child and raise them. Don’t give yourself the chance of looking back on life and being full of regrets. Do the best you can now while there is time. There is no such thing as too late, there is no such thing as too far gone. So, we could be doing things better, maybe we have messed up. Don’t sit and wallow in pity, make a change.
It's never too late to make memories!
Whether we plan for our children or they are surprises doesn’t have to determine our quality of parenting. I have seen planned families struggle to figure it out and I have seen unexpected families flourish. So let’s not blame poor parenting on the “I wasn’t ready” excuse, quite frankly, if you have a kid, it’s too late for that. Our families become victims to the world we live in; finances strain the home and often pull us away to work more and work harder. The increase and obsession of media and technologies have become our babysitter and entertainment. I can promise you that any one activity you do with your child, like flying kites at the park or going on some kind of free adventure, will be a memory long beyond their friend’s Facebook status. Kids are so amazed with the simplest of things that we should take advantage of every opportunity to awe them and create a little magic in their lives. Look back on the fondest of memories from your childhood and ask yourself if your children have the same quality memories.
Find Time to Make Time
- Ten Ways to Make More Time for Your Kids - FamilyEducation.com
Find out how to slow your family down, and increase the time you have for your kids.
They Need You
- The Reasons: Why Kids Need Parents - Parentalrights.org - Protecting Children by Empowering Parents
Protecting Children by Empowering Parents through the Parental Rights Amendment