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Are Children Today Growing Up Wimpy?
Wimpy or over worked?
When I look back at what was expected of teenagers within the last few decades, the role of the teenager is evolving. Are our children becoming more wimpy because of all the latest technology? Or are they becoming more able to handle a stressful situation because of the latest technology? Wimpy is not a very technical term. Are teens less prepared or more prepared for handling situations involving them that are mentally, emotionally or physically more demanding?
Mentally stretched from all sides.
Mental exhaustion is taking it's toll on kids. Teens are expected to do more in less time. They not only need to get through school and maintain a decent grade, but their homework is at a higher standard than in the past. My son is a Junior in high school. He had a project due the other day. He had to create a Power Point presentation and his presentation was scheduled for Tuesday. It was Monday night at about 11:00 pm. He was putting on the finishing touches, he reached for his portable USB flash drive and it wasn't there. He couldn't find it anywhere. He was so frustrated and mentally exhausted that he just went to bed.
The next morning I asked him if he had everything prepared and he explained to me that he couldn't find his flash drive. I told him to explain his issue to the teacher. Hopefully the teacher would understand, then my son could turn it in the next day. My son quickly explained to me that it is due today and only today. Late assignments are not accepted. There are three projects per day and that this was his day and the teacher would not accept anything else. I told him to e-mail the project to his teacher's e-mail address. Then the teacher could bring it up on a lap top. He said that was not acceptable either. Needless to say, my son failed this project. Zero for all his hard work. Even though he explained the situation to his teacher, the teacher would not budge.
This mental stress is normal to teens these days. Teachers want students to get used to meeting deadlines so they will be prepared for the working world. Society is a lot more demanding of a teen these days. Teens are dealing with so much more stress than their co-teens from earlier decades. The entire college entrance situation is another area where teens must excel in school just to get a place on a waiting list for their favorite college.
Once a child leaves junior high, high school is a big step up. Gone are the fun filled, care-free days. A child's chance to play and enjoy a stress free life are pretty much over. It's sad, but it's the reality of a teens life these days. Mental stress for teens is part of their every day life.
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Teens through the decades -How teens react now versus how they reacted in the past.
My adolescent children hate when I start a sentence with "when I was your age...". They don't want to hear about how I did this and I accomplished that when I was a child. Adolescence is a rough time for many teenagers. Teenagers these days tend to be more wimpy and whiny than in the past generations. As our culture develops and as we use Twitter and Facebook and other forms of social media, it's easier now than ever to express your views, opinions and emotions. Is this a good for our children or bad for our children?
Back in the day, if we got caught by a parent doing something wrong, we had to go to our room. In our room was a bed, a dresser, a desk, maybe, and that was it. We laid there looking up at the ceiling or crying into our pillow, thinking about what just happened. We thought about the incident, whether our punishment was fair or not, and then we moved on. There was no cell phone, no iPad, no computer with Internet, no electronics at all. Most of us didn't even have a home phone in our room. A phone in a teenager's room was a rarity. Normally there was only one phone line per household because most parents didn't want a chatty teenager talking on the phone and tying it up. Remember that?
Now, when a child is scolded, they can tweet about it, post it on their Facebook, text their best friend, look up their situation on the Internet in a minute and so on. It's really not their fault that all this is available. Literally, a teen has the ability to communicate to the world at his fingertips.. Some would argue that texting, or tweeting is a healthy way to vent feelings so they don't remain locked up inside. On the other hand, can this immediate outlet of showing emotions and feelings damage a child? Will they ever learn to handle situations on their own? Will they ever think for themselves or figure out a way to deal with something without running to others?
Wimpy and whining are up because the demand for teens to perform and handle more responsibility is on the rise. Sure, they have more access to anything and everything from their friends to movies, YouTube Videos and such. But, they are also expected to earn higher grades, work harder and smarter than any other teens from the past.
The best thing that we can do for them as parents is to guide them, discipline them, encourage them and provide them with the tools they need to survive the challenges in today's tough world.