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Are Kids More Rude Than They Used to Be?

Updated on October 31, 2017
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Claire has been dealing with depression since the age of 14 and obtained a degree in psychology in order to help those suffering.

Children Need Discipline

Before the baby bores light their torches and grab their pitchforks, I'm not talking about all kids, there are still some parents who discipline their children and teach them to behave nicely. But these parents seem to be decreasing in number with more and more parents refusing to discipline their children or adopting the attitude of "anything for a quiet life"

And I get it, a quiet life must be all you are after when you have kids, but kids NEED discipline, if you want them to turn into well rounded, decent human beings then they need discipline. But why don't people discipline their kids anymore?

Fear

With a smacking ban coming into place pretty soon, parents will be scared of getting into some serious trouble for reasonably disciplining their kids. And with the the reasonable chastisement clause being such a grey area, it can be hard for parents to know what they can and can't do to their kids.

People Are Too "Busy"

So many parents say that they are too busy to discipline their children and teach them how to behave, why did you have children then, if you weren't going to spend time with them and teach them to be nice people and hopefully have them grow up into polite and well mannered adults?

Everyone who has kids is busy, but nobody should ever be too busy to help shape your kids into good people.

Parental Values

Some adults are rude, that's who they are, they have no manners and they don't see this as a problem. They see the rude and arrogant way they act as perfectly fine and totally acceptable, and it just isn't. But their personality will be imprinted onto their children and their values (or lack of) will also be taught. A rude person won't ever be able to teach anyone to be polite because they don't know how, or they simply don't want to. So rude people are more likely to have rude kids.

Nobody Wants To Be The Bad Guy

Discipline is something that should be shared, and if it isn't being shared or their isn't another person to share it with, one person always has to do it. And this person will be seen as the bad guy, even though they are not, that is just how kids will see it. So the one who usually always does it may want to stop because they want to be the good guy for once, and this must be a very frustrating position to be in for a parent.

Other Parents

Other parents are a huge influence on some people, and if those parents let their children do anything they want, then other parents will follow. Everyone wants to feel accepted and following others behavior is one of the easiest ways to do that.

Mommy cliques are the ultimate mean girls
Mommy cliques are the ultimate mean girls

Lack Of Knowledge

Some people just don't know how to discipline their children, through no fault of their own, they just aren't aware of ways that don't include becoming smacking, so they don't do anything.

The Child

Some kids just don't respond to discipline, some kids have very difficult personalities or problems that mean discipline is something that just doesn't seem to get through to them. These children require professional help which isn't readily available and can seem very extreme to some parents.

The Internet

Kids are exposed to more adult situations now because of the internet, so they are mentally growing up and maturing a lot faster, and this is something that must be hard for parents to deal with. Kids are maturing at a faster rate then parents know how to deal with.

Peer Pressure

Wherever there are children, there is peer pressure and it is made light of, but it can be a very serious thing. Kids can be made to do something they are not comfortable with or they don't necessarily agree with, simply because other children are doing it.

It's About Basic Manners

I am sure every generation thinks the next one is awful, but with the amount of adults who seem to be getting ruder, it feels like a foregone conclusion that kids are going to follow suit.

Before anyone tells me that I am a monster, I am not talking about kids with complex needs, or kids with neurological conditions that can't help the way they behave, I am talking about badly behaved kids, I am talking about brats.

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      Claire Raymond 3 months ago from UK

      I agree with you there Devika, kids don't seem to have much respect anymore. I would never have been allowed to behave like that as a child!

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      Devika Primić 3 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I live in small community and observe how kids behave. They are rude, and disrespectful. Parents who lack education fail in parenting.

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      Claire Raymond 6 months ago from UK

      Thanks Louise, yes they are here too, they say and do things I never would have even dared as a kid.

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      Claire Raymond 6 months ago from UK

      I agree Glenis, that's a really good idea, a lot more people would be prepared for when they have children that way!

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      GlenR 6 months ago from UK

      Some children have no respect for adults or for other children. In my view, it’s down to poor parenting. I have long felt that parenting skills ought to be taught in schools.Other than that, call in the heroic Supernanny to tame the little monsters.

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      Louise Powles 6 months ago from Norfolk, England

      Well, times have certainly changed. The internet is, indeed, a factor, I agree with you there. I've never wanted children, but the children - certainly round where I live - seem to be more ruder than I remember when I was young.

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