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The question here is basically, is it okay to spy on your teenagers or your child? Well, I believe that we have mostly all done it at some time when your kids were younger. You got a little nosey and decided to snoop around in your kids computer to see what he/she was looking at. After all, they were about 11 or 12 and you wanted to make sure they weren't talking to a predator. Keeping kids safe online to me, well, that was what I should be doing and is fine and my right!
Why Snooping and Spying on your kids could be a good thing
Below I will talk about why I think snooping or "spying" on your kids may be in fact, a blessing or at least, something you will be glad you did. You will also read where, in some instances, your child will be glad you did as well. It can relieve them of something they had really needed to talk about with you and were afraid or embarrassed, etc.
At first, I felt ashamed of myself by even thinking about spying on my kid and I thought, "what kind of mother am I?" I knew I would have really been po'd at my mom if she did. However; now that I'm older, I know she did and it was her right as a parent and also it was being a caring mother.
Spying On Your Kids or Checking On Your Kids-There's a Difference
A Mother Going Through Child's Computer
Invasion of Privacy
Young adults and their privacy should be respected. I am not disputing this at all. But now your kid is now growing into a young man/woman and you really want to check, but you know it's just not right and it's an invasion of their privacy. I would NOT want my mother to snoop on me and I'm old now.
So, my question is: When is the time to start snooping? Here are a few tips that I believe is the right time when it's okay and you aren't just being nosey.
It's Okay to snoop IF:
Is your son/daughter very edgy and not acting right?
Do they seem depressed?
Are they ignoring you or avoiding talking as much as they can?
You pretty much know your child, and you know if something just doesn't seem right.
If you have answered yes to just one question, then my advice is to go for it. I know there are a lot of you who disagree, and believe me, at one time, I did too. However; my teen was going through some teen things, and he didn't want to talk about it to mom and dad (of course). Well, by snooping, and NOT BEING NOSEY, it was a good thing in our case. Nothing catastrophic, and nothing outside normal teenager troubles, but it was something that needed to be addressed. I'm glad I snooped. Only to know that something was going on and I knew something was troubling my child. I honestly didn't do it out of boredem, I did it because I was concerned. Bad parenting? No! Good judgement? Yes! Cross the line? Absolutely not and I would do it again if I thought my child needed me and now he knows he can always come to mom and dad about anything.
Of course he's still a smart-ass, and knows it all, that hasn't changed. What did change, is his attitude a little bit and not walking around with his head down and not talking and disappearing in his room to cry alone.
Mothers, do what you have to do to save your kids..you can't be there for everything, but if you can help them anyway at all and you feel something is wrong, go for it. Only out of concern, not just being a nosey rosey. End of story
Opinions On What Others Think About Spying On Your Kids
- Is it wrong to snoop on your kids?
I go through my daughter's room and read her texts. I have not found anything incriminating and I feel guilty sometimes for snooping on her but as a mother I am concerned about her well being.
- Is It Okay to Snoop or spy on your kids?
More views of whether or not it's okay to spy on your kids.
- How to Spy on Your Child Online - Parenting.com