BLACK, NUBIAN QUEENS
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I am strong and at times very confident. Internally I fight for the confidence when I'm alone but when exposed to society I am a confident, strong alpha female. I command respect when I need to. Respect takes precedent over all things in my social life. "I give you what you give me." You can quote me on that one.
Why is it that as a Black female it has always been a fight? We fight to keep ourselves valid. We are looked upon as if we are ugly if we are too dark. We aren't as beautiful as the lighter, fair skinned Black female. Do we deserve to be frowned upon because of how dark or fair our skin color is?
As young children and adolescents we were taught that we were brought from Africa to The New Land, America to first be indentured servants then gradually upgraded (downgraded) to slaves. Humans who were taught that they were nothing more than dirt, trash, uncivilized animals. We were never taught that we'd come from royalty and we had our own traditions, rituals, laws, ethics, accomplishments, etc. We had no real identity so a lot of us had no hope and nothing to look forward to.
We did hear things like marry a rich man, get a job (not a career), a job (slave) to pay the bills. It was never impressed upon us to be self-sufficient or to become entrepreneurs. We never left the neighborhood so we only saw the hopelessness of the environment we lived in.
We have come from royalty. We are Black Nubian Queens. We are strong and have emerged from a place where life originally peeked. The Motherland, Africa, the land where all life began (The Origin of Man.) Kings needed strong queens to bare strong future kings and protectors. These warrior women were to fight as mighty and strong, to protect their families and land just as the men in their tribes.
Our heritage is full of countless strong women. It reaches to a time even before the Egyptian dynasties. Some of the names are well known, but his-story reports a different tale in an effort to keep our past and legacy unknown. We are truly in the company of greatness. We need not have to prove to anyone who we are.
Royalty, Queens, Warriors, Pioneers ....some extraordinary Black women from then until now:
- Queen Ahmose Nefertari wife of Amun Egypt, 18th Dynasty
- Queen Nefertiti ruled during the 18th Dynasty
- Bazao Turunku, 15th Century North African queen warrior who fought invaders and founded her own city
- Lena Horne (1917-2010) singer, actress, civil rights activist and dancer
- Della Reese (1932-) actress, singer
- Nikki Giovanni (1943-) poet, writer, commentator, activist and educator
- Florence "Flo-Jo" Griffith-Joyner (1959-1998) track and field athlete, considered "The Fastest Woman of all Time," "The Fastest Woman on the Planet'" and "The Fastest Woman on Earth" (take your pick.) Based on her performance at the 1988 Seoul Olympic Games
- Iman (1956-) Somalian model, fashion industry pioneer
These are just a few of Black women who stood out and paved the way for the rest of us.
So we as Black American women should be comfortable in our skin. Being strong and confident can intimidate some people. It intimidates black men, other black females, and whites. Don't fear us because of our physical attributes. If you must fear us, fear us for our intellect.
We have struggled through hundreds of years of slavery. Watching our families torn apart by slave masters. Separating child from parent, mothers from children, fathers from wives, etc. We have always been the ones to curve our beliefs. Staying focused on the thought that a better day would come. We were strong enough to take care of others livelihood as well as our own. Now we must exclusively take care of our own.
In order to do so, we must first believe in ourselves as confident and relevant people. We can't have any doubts about who we are. Strong minded, competent, self respect and confidence in our own ability to overcome. The negative thoughts need to be replaced with positive thoughts and actions. Hard? Yes, it is brutal.
Just today at the market I was confronted by a cashier who had the nastiest attitude with me. Now the customer in front of me must have been her best friend cause she was giggling and happy with him. However, I moved up expecting the same cheerful, warmhearted, response, I was happy and spoke to her, "Hello." She shrugged her head at me, but wouldn't say a word. I got a little agitated, but just then my 3 year old started talking to her. She refused to answer when my daughter repeatedly said "hi." My daughter turned to me and asked me, "mom what's wrong with the lady, she can't talk?" I replied, "baby I don't know, maybe she doesn't know how." So my daughter said "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!" The cashier laughed so hard, and started responding to her. It took my 3 year old to break the tension. We should take this lesson from a 3 year old, who doesn't see jealousy, bitterness, hatred etc. We need to respect one another. There shouldn't be any envy, unpleasant, unsociable attitudes. This is an example that has instilled tolerance in me. So I will be lenient and use kindness when dealing with my fellow Black American females.
We also need to teach our young women to be strong and teach them about their past. Allow them to experiment to find out who they are. These experiences will raise their esteem and confidence. Let them know that as Americans we have an abundance of opportunity. What's needed is determination and focus. Set clear goals and reach them. Never get weary from hard work. Keep working at it, procrastination is not an option. We need to start now, it's never too late.
Black Nubian Queens of today for a better tomorrow lift you heads up high and make a difference. Don't be afraid to show everyone who you are. Compliment the next queen you pass by, speak and strike up a conversation. Uplift the younger and upcoming queens to continue a togetherness that no one can break.
Live up to your potential. Learn the truth about who we are and where we come from. For we are descendants of kings, queens and warriors.