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Children and Conflict
Children Are Like A Beautiful Sunset
Children are like a beautiful sunset on a nice warm evening. The early years of their lives really charge this belief. When they are infants they are so precious. Then they grow and become toddlers; still precious and fill us with amazement as they begin developing their gifts and talents and personalities. Amen? And then there's the teenage years which calls for more guidance and patience and still find them to be a joy.
On the other hand, the teenage years and the young adult years can be and most of the times are the most conflicting years of life with them. Here is where I believe we need HELP! I was using the methods I learned from my mother that I knew wasn't the best way but it was what I was use to. I wanted a better way. And I remember early in my conversion I asked God to teach me how to be a mother. I read the scripture that says, "spare the rod; spoil the child." or "a child left to himself shall bring his mother to shame."
How Do You Make The Change From Your Way To God's Way?
How do you make the change from your way of raising up children to raising them under the admonishing of the Lord? This is one question I would love to hear every one's experience on because as they say, "It takes a village to raise a child." And as the bible says, " We are helpers to one another."
Our children is our most precious possession in life and for personal reasons we would want them to have the best life has to offer and to be the best person they can be; well developed and achievers in the world. How do we aid them in being such without being to hard on them or to lenient or make them do things the way we do them instead of allowing them to be who God created them to be?
The time we're living in makes it hard to raise children properly. There is so much going on in the world and in individual lives that distracts every one's attention that we fall shortin so many ways in child rearing. There's so much on TV, the Internet, video games, reading materials, peer pressure, and lack of family togetherness. Children, a lot times, are left to be taught by these things because the parent (s) is to busy working or finding there way being a young mother or father.
There is so many aspects and reasons of why there is so much conflict with our precious children but whatever the reasons (what, when, and how) who has the answers to handling conflict with our children of today for parents of today?
A Sister And I was Talking
A sister and I was talking on the phone about a business project. She was trying to stay focused on the matter at hand but couldn't because of a pressing issue she was having with her daughter and grand child. Making a long story short; mother serving God and daughter is backsliden and they had planned for the grand child of 8 years old to be baptize on the next Sunday. But during the week before Sunday had arrived the daughter changed her mind and said he couldn't get baptized because she was attending another family member's baptism and they would have to reschedule her son's baptism.
My sister was very upset about this and expressed it to her daughter as well as to me. I immediately started to pray in the spirit. I was lead to tell her that it was only a test and that God doesn't want us to lose our peace or be upset about what the tempter is doing. We are to cast all our cares upon God and He will take care of what's troubling us or guide us through it. Rather than being upset with her daughter, I suggested some things to say; like, "calmly say, what if God is calling for Him now, should we put it off, we don't know what tomorrow may bring, are you sure you want to do that. I forgot to mention the child had a dream that it died. And my sister had a similar dream as well. We're believing God is calling the child unto salvation and ministry.
Meanwhile, I spoke with my sister the next morning and she told me that her daughter had changed her mind and that the baptism was on again. Praise the Lord! I don't know what she said to her daughter word for word, nor do I know what exactly changed her daughter's mind. My purpose for the story is to say that in conflict with our children; sometime a soft answer turns away wrath. Though the tempter came to try to stop the baptism, Godly wisdom resolved that conflict.
About Conflict With Our Children
All I'm left to say about conflict with our children is that we need God in every aspect of our lives and our children lives. And we need one another to help with advice, and correction for us and our children. The old school way. Pay attention and listen to them. What advice or insight can you give?