Be Interesting, Be Intelligent, Be Beautiful
I usually never watch TV, if I do it's mostly foreign films or documentaries. Yesterday, I decided to channel surf, and instead of finding an interesting show that doesn't consist of reality tv, what I found was more of a "beauty plague". I realized, most of those commercials, at that time of day where specifically for the stay at home moms, and it was nap time for my kids, so it is like the Media knows when you will be sitting for your "mom break" if that's even possible.
Most of these commercials went a little something like this: "Do you want flawless skin? Do you want to look 10 even 20 years younger? Well we got just the product for you". Yes, I am sure you have seen these before. And at least in the past, these cheesy commercials, could only be viewed in those infomercial channels. And trust me, if you watch them long enough, its like being hypnotized because at the end of that 30 minutes, you will be calling to order some magical product, yes, I am guilty.
What I then realized was that for that whole 45 minutes, I only saw about 2 commercials about going back to school, but I saw over 15 commercials about beauty and hair brands. About new discoveries for your aging skin, and dull hair. I was heated. I turned off the tv, went to the mirror and said, " I am a stay at home mom, and I don't have dull hair, and for my 33 years in this planet, my skin is doing just fine, and I can even say I look younger without make up. I was upset because I realized the media was painting us stay at home mothers like we were falling apart. Then I realized, I don't want my daughter to grow up thinking that her goal in life is to be "Beautiful", or to have "Glowing skin". Then the feminist in me woke up, again, like she does about once a day.
You can be Beautiful and Intelligent, all at once.
When I say I am a feminist, please, don't cringe. I believe women and men have the same right. As simple as that. I believe that a stay at home dad, isn't any less than a dad who runs a business, and vice versa. Good, now, lets continue.
I have a 4 year old daughter, Sofia, my first born. She is a bright, intelligent, kind, beautiful little girl, that has the potential to make even the most serious person on earth smile. Today she told me that when she grows up she wants to build a robot. So I told her she would, because she can be whatever she wants. Other days she wants to be a writer like me, or a painter like her grandfather, or even a teacher like her grandmother. Every day she wants to be something different, and she can. She is the type of little girl that will play football with the boys, in a tutu wearing lipstick and a spider man shirt. She is a free spirit. I want her to grow up knowing that she can feed her brain with knowledge and make anything possible.
What I don't want her to do, is live a life of shallowness. A life where your main goal is to fit in, have gorgeous hair, perfect skin, perfect make up, a perfect outfit, etc. Lets be serious. We don't need all of that to be beautiful. Take me for example, I have pastel lavender hair, I am covered with tattoos, and a few piercings here and there, and I am as weird and strange as they come. I dislike make up, and other than knowing how to dye my hair, I've never really style it in a "look" ever. I rather read, write, travel, go to nature, and learn random facts. I love clothes, but vintage clothes, I avoid malls and department stores at any cost. And even in my own ways, my husband still finds me the most interesting, most beautiful and annoying woman in the planet. Yes, see? I keep it real.
I don't want little girls, to grow up thinking that all that matters in life is their looks, at the end of the day, looks fade, make up runs, and hair eventually gets messy. At the end of your days, those things will all become trivial to you, and all you have are your experiences on how you lived your life, what you learned, what you are still learning. I think its time, to show our girls that what really matters is discovering who you are, and pushing your own limits. You can still look good, and be a fashionista, while blowing peoples mind with your knowledge. We can be both. We have to brake the judgments, that If you are pretty then you are dumb, that if you don't take care of yourself than you are smart. I can say I know some beautiful, stunning women and they are the most interesting humans I know, and at the same time, vice versa. Its time to just be who you are, and expressing yourself, without the fear of being judged, because after all, you will always get judged.