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Beating Fatherlessness: How to Maintain a Presence with Your Children

Updated on May 29, 2017

Spending time with your children, playing games with them and talking to them about the ups and downs of life is the righteous duty of a fantastic father. Children need to feel that their father cares for them and that he is available in times of chaos and confusion. Maintaining a presence with your children is vitally important.

Responsible fathers provide safety and security in the home as well as direction. Unfortunately, many fathers are missing in action (M.I.A). According to the National Center for fathering,” More than 20 million children live in a home without the physical presence of a father. Millions more have dads who are physically present, but emotionally absent.”

Fatherlessness affects society in several ways. The conditions of the fatherlessness will most likely be represented by dysfunctional homes, chaotic classrooms, street crimes, hospitals, and prisons.

The Power of Fatherly Presence

Fathers who go out of their way to create a strong presence with their children build progressive and emotionally healthy families. Therefore, building an emotional bond with his kids must take first priority.

3 Things to a Dad Should Avoid

Avoid the silent treatment. Many fathers move throughout the house without acknowledging the presence of their children, even when the child is in the same room. Don’t do this. A goal is always to stay emotionally connected with a child.

Avoid random and meaningless yelling at your children out of frustration. Instead, approach problems with the dignity of a caring father. Such fathers don’t raise their voice unless they are willing to make it crystal clear that the situation at hand is extremely critical. For an episode of yelling to even to occur, the child must be totally defiant to the point he or she is out of control.

Then yelling should be applied only to emphasize the seriousness of the situation or condition, followed by deep discussions and reasonable decisions.

Don’t reject your children. Don’t ignore their continual desire to go with you, play a game, or watch TV with you. Never tell them to get lost and that you are too busy for them. Kids enjoy a father who is willing to spend time. Bonding with others is a matter of sharing fun and exciting time.

3 Things a Dad Should Do

Always hug your children, each day if possible, especially during their formative years (1-10 years). Try not to go a day without making your little ones feel secure via a strong father’s touch.

During teenage years, a pat on the shoulder as a show of inspiration and support is sufficient to avoid the awkwardness of an embrace. Nevertheless, physically connecting with your children creates a powerful presence.

Teach your children how to do things, such as riding a bike, fishing for bluegills, flying a kite and playing a game of chess. When you show you teach a child how to do something, he or she will remember that forever and will always be thankful, especially if what you teach them results in success later in their adult life.

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Venus and Serena Williams, the world’s most popular tennis stars who happen to be sisters, were taught how to play the game of tennis by their father.

Go places -lots of places together! Take your children to local carnivals or popular resorts, including Disneyland and Six Flags Great America, or take them on a fun-filled cruise across the ocean. Fathers who can save enough money to take his family to faraway places will always be remembered as one of the greatest dads in the world.

However, if you just can’t afford to take your family on such expensive get-a-ways, then take them to the popular parks and lakes in your state for the sake of family fun and excitement. Attend fun-filled city event during both summer and winter if possible. You’ll still be celebrated as an outstanding dad.

What to Do If You Can’ t Be There

As fathers, sometimes our obligations take us to other cities and states, even other countries. Nevertheless, we must find ways to stay connected to our children. Therefore, if possible connect via phone as least twice a week to tell the kids how much you love and miss them.

Keep in touch a variety of ways. Send post cards and gifts relating to the work you’ll doing or the place

you are staying at. Try to involve your family in your experience as powerfully as possible so that your presence is still strong even when you are physically not there.

Being present with your family is vitally important. The fatherless don’t have such privilege. Millions of children, including me as a child, didn’t have the privilege of a father in the home. However, by being there for your family, you are making a stark difference in the world. If you fulfill you fatherly obligations you children will rise and give you the highest honor.

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