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Being a Father

Updated on May 17, 2010

Being a Father


There can be only one way to start this hub, which would be at the beginning.  Let’s say for a minute that you believe in God and everything the bible says about the history of life.  In the beginning the world was devoid of human life so God created man.  When he created man He soon discovered that man was bored and made woman.  These two were selfish in their pursuits and ended up breaking the only commandment God had with them.  That’s right they ate the fruit of the tree of knowledge.  God decided that they didn’t deserve to be in paradise anymore and kicked them out to toil on the earth and make their living off of their hard work.  Soon thereafter they had two children and finally learned what it meant to be selfless.  Of course one ended up killing the other and then got banished from his father’s land but the ideal stays the same.

The joys of Fatherhood
The joys of Fatherhood

Being a Man


What does it mean to be a man?  To answer this question let’s first look at what doesn’t make a male a man. 

1.      Knowing all the players on a certain sports team doesn’t make you a man.

2.      Knowing how to shotgun a beer doesn’t make you a man.

3.      Driving the newest, hottest, raddest car doesn’t make you a man.

4.      Being able to break a board with your hands, leg, foot, or head doesn’t make you a man.

5.      Being able to beat up someone doesn’t make you a man.

6.      Fixing a car or a house or anything doesn’t make you a man.

7.      That piece of flesh that dangles between your legs doesn’t make you a man.

The above mentioned things that don’t make you a man can be handy in certain situations but not necessary to be considered a man.  Number seven though is mandatory in maleness because without it you’d probably be a woman, or something I don’t feel like discussing right now.  The thing to remember and your take away item is that everything you learn in your life is only as good as how you use it.

Life’s Bounty


When we begin this life we have parents that hopefully will teach us how to be productive adults.  Hopefully they will teach us how to be upstanding citizens.  Everything we are, and everything we ever hope to be is from our parents.  Generally, women are the primary instructors to their children on matters of the heart and fair treatment of others.  The fathers are generally the ones that teach us the life lessons that will help us cope with life’s tragedies.

At some point in each male’s life they will meet a woman, fall in love with her, hopefully marry her and then begin a family.  In all honesty I was a punk kid myself when I became a father for the first time, but the birth of my oldest daughter changed my life in a profound way the very second she was born.  The die was cast and I was now a father.  Just a kid myself but ready for the responsibility of fatherhood.  And honestly I was scared out of my mind.

Being a Father


There is not one single joy of this life that can compare to being a father.  You do everything you can to guide, teach, and instruct your baby girl or boy in matters of life, merely hoping they will succeed when it is their turn.  The price is a heavy one, from sacrifices to the sharing of pains but in the end the price is well paid.

I actually watched both of my daughters enter this world.  They say it looks like a wet St. Bernard coming in through a cat door, but this is just not true.  When you’re looking and watching the birthing process and the head comes out and the baby opens their eyes and you (the father) are the first person your child sees is a feeling well beyond the definitions of even the most descriptive words.

I watched both of my daughters born and witnessed each one take their first breath.  Honesty men, it was a moment that made me cry tears of joy.  My daughters and I share a bond because of this that can never be taken away by time or distance.

This alone though doesn’t make you a father.

I’ve lived a life of hard work, and was taught to earn every step you take towards salvation, and this I intend to continue to do.  I’ve also taught my children this lesson, but they don’t have to work as hard as I did but mainly because of what I do.  The things I know how to do, and the things I know how to do well are tools I use to teach.  My daughters don’t yet know everything I do but they know enough for now.  Soon as time creeps up on me those lessons will also be taught to them.  Essentially they’ll learn through me how to be self-sufficient, which is the most valuable lesson they could ever learn.

Gifting for a Father

Ladies and Gentlemen, boys and girls of all ages, as Father’s Day steadily approaches you may be searching for gift ideas for your Father.  Here are a couple of gift ideas that may help you.


These are all great gift ideas and they’re sure to please your father, but take it from a father that loves all of these things, these are not all you can give.  The most precious gifts I’ve ever gotten from my daughters were not purchased from a store and wrapped.  A simple construction paper card or something they’ve made was more valuable to me than a thousand books, tools, electronic items, or video games.  Just remember that men will tell you they don’t need anything materialistic and they mean it.  They want something from the heart that says, look daddy what I’ve spent my play time making for you.  This is what makes you a man and this is what makes you a father.

Bear in mind ladies I am in no way excluding the mothers, they play a very integral part to the growth and development process of their children.

References: Life

© 2010 by Wesley Cox. All rights reserved. Copying without permission is illegal and will be prosecuted.


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      wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Joy56: It is always a joy to read your comments. I'm pretty sure their mother wouldn't allow them to forget. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      Joy56 7 years ago

      told like a man thumbs up, hope you get lovely home made cards from your daughters... or even bought ones. They wont forget you

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      wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Rls, being a father didn't come with a manual but I do the best I can each day and hopefully my girls will grow up to be upstanding citizens. If they do then I get 40% of the credit. Their mother gets 60% of the credit. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      rls8994 7 years ago from Mississippi

      This was beautiful. I love the way you feel about being a Father. You're girls are so lucky to have you. I'm sure you are such a good Daddy!

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      wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Thank you so much Pachuca, I do enjoy being a father so much and am very proud of my daughters. Being a father is the greatest gift of all.

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      Pachuca213 7 years ago

      I am glad you feel that way about fatherhood. Not many appreciate it the way you expressed. Great hub my friend...really great!

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      wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Thank you for reading Sheila, I appreciate the comment.

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      sheila b. 7 years ago

      My Dad worked and took care of his family and as I look back, I know it was as hard for him as it is for most people, but he never complained. He took responsibility and met it day after day. You sound much like him, a father in deeds.

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      wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Pisean, thank you for that and thanks for stopping by and reading.

      Breakfastpop, thank you for reading and commenting. I'm glad you liked it.

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      breakfastpop 7 years ago

      Terrific hub, so honest and heartfelt. Thanks for sharing.

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      pisean282311 7 years ago

      i liked ur being man writeup...good job...

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      wesleycox 7 years ago from Back in Texas, at least until August 2012

      Resspenser: Thank you for visiting and commenting, though I'm sure being a grandfather is awesome I can wait for that. And I'm hoping at least ten years or more.

      Wrenfrost: I am very proud of my daughters and in fact my oldest daughter wrote the hub The Battle: A Poem. I had to post it when she finished writing it. Thank you for stopping by to read my hub.

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      wrenfrost56 7 years ago from U.K.

      This hub was very sweet, honest and true. I bet your very proud of your daughters and I'm sure there are proud of you. :)

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      Ronnie Sowell 7 years ago from South Carolina

      The best is still to come: being a grandfather!

      Good hub.