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Biblical Parenting

Updated on April 13, 2011


Biblical Parenting - Part 1 (How to become good parents)




I. What is biblical Parenting?


The basics of biblical parenting involve more than simply raising a child. Parents are directly responsible to God for more than just providing food, shelter, and protection.


In biblical parenting, we adopt God's standards as our own in rearing up our children ; we then produce quality character that is different from a child's natural inclinations. We then, help our children become the kind of person God intends them to be.

Proverbs 22:6 emphasizes the significance of biblical parenting:

"Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it."


As parents turn to the Bible for instruction they are able to open up channels in their children's lives so that God's grace can flow in.

We learn about parenting from our parents and they learned about it from their parents too, and so on.

Parents influence to their descendants can go up to 150 years.

We may not be able to influence our ancestors but we can still influence our descendants.

As parents we shape our children's attitudes, actions, behaviour and associations.

When we are inconsistent in delivering Godly instructions and wisdom to our children, we practice ineffective parenting.

When we place unreasonable demands by abusing our authority, we practice ineffective parenting.

When we make anything more important than our children, we take another step away from love, and a step away from effective biblical parenting.

II. Parenting is a sacred task. ( a God- given and serious responsibility)

Good parenting is not automatic. Should you have a family that is knowledgeable about God?

Eli and his two sons were priests.

1 Samuel 1:3

Year after year this man went up from his town to worship and sacrifice to the LORD Almighty at Shiloh , where Hophni and Phinehas, the two sons of Eli, were priests of the LORD.

1 Samuel 2: 11-14

Eli's sons were wicked men; they had no regard for the LORD. Now it was the practice of the priests with the people that whenever anyone offered a sacrifice and while the meat was being boiled, the servant of the priest would come with a three-pronged fork in his hand. He would plunge it into the pan or kettle or caldron or pot, and the priest would take for himself whatever the fork brought up. This is how they treated all the Israelites who came to Shiloh .


We should not think that just because one is Godly, his children would also be Godly.


- David was a godly man but what happened to his children? Many of them were not were not godly.

- Samuel was a godly man but his children were not godly.

Good parenting is not automatic. Many men will become fathers but to be a good father is another story. And so this is true with mothers.

Parents are often not aware of what is going on the minds and hearts of their children. Oftentimes, they are caught in the business of this world.

There should be an intentional effort in finding out what is going on in their lives. We can be their friends…their confidant…their help in trying times.

Parents should know their children’s fears, worries, know their relationships…it takes time to have this kind of a relationship with our children.

We think our children are problematic, but in reality, 90% of the problems begin with parents.

What can we learn about Eli?

Eli was a father who was physically present but un- involved. He did not know what his sons were doing.

Why parenting is a serious responsibility?

Because failure to parent your children will have eternal consequences.

Example: Duke family: 1200 descendants have been traced.

- 400 physically self wrecked.

- 310 professional paupers

- 130 convicted criminals

- 60 habitual thieves

- 7 murderers

Only 20 learned a trade and half owed it to prison discipline.

What we do with our children will result to a certain chain reaction for eternity.

Good example: Jonathan Edwards, son of godly parents.400 descendant traced:

- 14 college presidents

- 100 professors

- 100 ministers of the gospel

- 100 lawyers

- 60 doctors and many authors.

Both good and bad parents will impact the next generation, whether we like it or not.

III. Goals of Parenting.

A. Parenting is raising up children to reach their full God-given potential-mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally.

We have to make sure that our children will keep growing in these whole aspects.

And this is the Parent’s responsibility…sometimes we think that this is the responsibility of the church.

B. Parenting is passing on a godly heritage to the next generation.

Deuteronomy 4:9

Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.

We know that we are successful parents when we see our grandchildren behaving as we would want them to.

Many times, Christianity is not being passed on to the next generation within a family. Our job is to pass on Jesus Christ to our Children.

We cannot teach what we do not possess. If we want too pass on a godly heritage to our children, we must have the Lord in our hearts.

C. Parenting is Training.

Proverbs 22:6

"Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it."

Teaching is not training. The Hebrew word for training is

“chanak” –to wet the palate of the baby; the idea is to create a sucking desire to drink milk.

The Hebrew verb form is to break a wild horse. The idea is for parents to bring the child into submission by teaching them to be obedient.

The father has the major responsibility. The Mother is equally important but the best set-up is a combination of both.

Parenting is serious and God holds the parents responsible and accountable to Him.



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    • Cellebrate! profile image

      Cellebrate! 9 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      Dear Childcen-

      Thank you for taking time out to read this hub. I really fet the need to share this will a lot of other parents, as the world we are in today offers a lot of uncertain, unGodly values.

      Thank God because He is there to guide us as we guide our children.

      God bless you.

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      childcen 9 years ago from New Zealand

      Our roles as parents is to guide our children to God himself. I definitely agree with you that parenting is serious business. Our children cannot see God but they can see the God that we believe in through our lives.