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MAKING YOUR KIDS LIKED
Parents, who care about their kids want to give them the right start in life on every level. They understand that there are NO bad kids, just bad parents and they work hard to ensure they do not come into the latter category.
Yet for all that I reckon we all know kids who are not bad kids but who ,for some reason are just not likeable and thus not liked. Sometimes this is across the board, with others it is adults who are deterred and with some it is within their peer groups. Whatever, the category, the tendency is for the unliked child to become the unliked adult.
Parents will occasionally confide that whilst they LOVE their child or children even, they do not especially LIKE them. This is far more common than perhaps thought, especially when you factor in those parents who think it but loyally say nothing about it to anyone either in their close circle or to a professional source.
It is often a heartfelt cause of angst and concern for caring parents who feel that despite their best efforts the tide cannot be turned.They suffer in silence whilst the child goes on apparently oblivious to the grief it causes.
My observations over the years both with family and in professional life lead me to conclude that more than any other single cause, respect is the key. I contend that a child taught to understand respect is usually a happy child. Respect for and towards others breeds self respect which is vital not only in giving balance but also confidence in oneself, a key element of happiness at any age
Principles of how to work with children towards a happy and respectful position have been carefully and sympathetically formulated and my link below provides excellent guidelines for those who, however secretly, feel their child has not understood as yet, the meaning of respect, in certain areas. For example, teaching a child that conversation is a two way street seems so easy, but may, having mastered the talking bit, have no idea about the listening! Unless they are guided, many years of trial and error may see them become the unliked adult we all know of. Taking positive action, as you will discover, to guide a child towards respectfulness can and does lead to happiness all round. If this touches a chord then link on, it may be of estimable value to you and your child.