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Causes of Sexual Immorality among Youths: Effects and Remedies
"Sexual immoralities have become the order of the day. Girls no longer cherish chaste and the dignity of womanhood is long gone. Men have lost control over their emotions. It is obvious that the youths today do not see pre-marital sex as an immoral act"
What is Sexual Immorality?
Teach a child the right way to follow according to the scripture, and when he grows, he will not depart from it. What then can we say of this generation of youths; that they did not listen or that parents do not fulfill their obligations according to the scripture? Sexual immoralities have become the order of the day. Girls no longer cherish chaste and the dignity of womanhood is long gone. Men have lost control over their emotions. It is obvious that the youths today do not see pre-marital sex as an immoral act. Advanced Learner’s Dictionary defined Sexual immorality as the sexual acts not following accepted standard of sexual behavior. From the above definition, one can infer that there are accepted standard of sexual behavior which I believe should be within the confines of marriage. Marriage as a legal union between man and woman to become husband and wife confers on couples the right to have sexual relationships, thus making this relationship an immoral act for unmarried couples. Sexual immorality can be discussed under two broad headings, namely; pre-marital and extra-marital sexual activities. Pre-marital sex is define as sexual intercourse between unmarried people and the scripture called it fornication, while the on other hand, extra-marital sex is the sexual activities between men and women other than their married partners. This is called adultery according to the scripture. Predominant among the youths is pre-marital sexual activities. It is an evil that is ravaging our society. This is immoral and should be condemned by all and sundry. There is indeed an urgent need to find a panacea to this menace. A solution has become imperative due to the disastrous end to this act of sexual immoralities among the youths but before then it is equally necessary that we look at the factor promoting this act.
Causes of Sexual Immorality
Sexual promiscuity is a world-wide phenomenon and one of the crucial steps towards mitigating this societal ill is to understand the reasons behind it. Sexual immorality among the youths is largely due to the more sexual active nature of the youths. That is, the urge to have sex is more on the youths as compare to other ages. Most at time their urge for sex becomes uncontrollable predominantly among the males. When there is self-indiscipline, this can lead to rape. According to Cliff Abonyi in his book, “The Creed of Marriage”, research has shown that men and women have equal sex hormones; however, men have ten to twenty times more testosterone (the hormone that has a big influence on how much sex men and women want and whether or not you can successfully act on those desire) level release than women. This could sometimes double in the early part of the morning and that explains why men have sharp erection in the mornings. This desire makes the youth feel like having sex all day. It takes only self-discipline and fear of God to control the natural urge.
Again, pre-mature sex exposure is another reason for this menace. The books our youths read, the films they watch, pornographic films and pictures they view both on the TV and internet as well as peer group pressure led them to sex experiment early in their life. Our moral value has been depreciated so badly due to the erosion of our cultural values in our society, to the extent that parents do not care what their children and wards read or view. What is the essence of having a child when you cannot shield the child from the societal evils in his/her developmental stages in life? On the part of the authority, censorship has declined to a level where anything can be air on the TV, internet or bought from the market at the detriment of our youths and their minds. Besides, the living condition in the developing nations due to poverty does not help matters. A situation where a couple and his army of children, even grown up children, live in a room apartment and the couple meets in the room at spectating of their children. It sounds unbelievable but this is true nature of our society. How do the youths manage their urge with this terrible situation?
Furthermore, another reason for this dreaded sexual immorality among the youths according to Joel Oneke in his book, The Mysteries of Sex, is called “the attire of harlot”. Indecent dressing! These are seductive wears that women put on to make men lust for them. This evil is ravaging our society. Women expose their nakedness: some wear clothes that show two third of their breast and sometimes all, while others wear long pants that are so tight that their feminine physiques are exposed. Belly and navels are no longer covered by cloths today. The societal irony is that men dress very decently to cover all parts of their body whereas women dress so scantily that left little to your imagination. Where is the dignity of womanhood? No doubt, this mode of dressing promotes sexual immorality.
In addition, materialism is another factor that promotes sexual immorality. This is sadly predominant among the ladies. Young girls in a bid to buy costly attires and conform to modern appearance demand for ladies become prostitutes very early in life. Parents also force their children and wards into this evil of materialism. A case where a woman in a developing nation sends her daughter or maid out for trade with the instruction never to return until all sales are made, I wonder how the innocent young girl will control the pressure. Sometimes these maids ran into some unscrupulous randy boys who lure them with promise that they would buy up all their sales. This is madam’s wish! Many girls have lost their virginity in this way in addition to either getting pregnant or contracting venereal diseases, at times both. More so, our parents are too busy these days looking for money that little or no attention is given to their children and what they do, and the children does whatever their judgment judges right. Who is to be blame?
“mother, you could have been the mother of a president but you aborted God’s plan in your life. I was sent with wealth for you but you murdered me for momentary enjoyment. What sin have I committed that you destroyed me with drugs and scalpel? Mum, you are very wicked. You never allowed me to pray or call upon the name of Jesus before you killed me. I was to be your only boy. I was sent to take care of you in your old age but you did not allow me to live. Why do you terminate my purpose on earth?”
Effects of Sexual Immorality
Sexual immoralities have grave consequence. In the book, “Sin’s Explosion”, Dr. Jack Van Lampe lamented, “every day in United States of America, 1282 illegitimate babes are born, 68493 teenagers contract venereal diseases, 2900 teenagers become pregnant, 3231 women have abortions….. Dear God we need revival”. If these figures can be so high in a highly literate society like USA, what then can the figure be in Africa and less developed world? Should they be sincere with their statistic, figures from these nations will be staggering and incredible. Sexual immorality results in unwanted pregnancy which makes the youths to go to unconventional places for abortion. These abortions if done by medical quacks lead to complications later in life or worst still death. If not properly handled, it can lead to infertility when they eventually get married. Africans like to blame witches and wizards. And when this happen, the mother-in-law or the old neighborhood will be accuse of witchcraft responsible for their ordeal. Some who manage to carry the pregnancy commits more heinous crimes when the baby is delivered like selling or throwing the baby in the bush or toilet as it happen in China in 2013. Evangelist Edna Onwuchekwa in her book title, Perilous Times and its Consequence, has the following imaginary lamentation of aborted babies, “mother, you could have been the mother of a president but you aborted God’s plan in your life. I was sent with wealth for you but you murdered me for momentary enjoyment. What sin have I committed that you destroyed me with drugs and scalpel? Mum, you are very wicked. You never allowed me to pray or call upon the name of Jesus before you killed me. I was to be your only boy. I was sent to take care of you in your old age but you did not allow me to live. Why do you terminate my purpose on earth?”
Again, it can lead to early marriage and poverty. When a young boy or girl is forced into marriage as a result of pre-marital sex when there is no source of lively hood, the end is always miserable. It leads to frustration and loss of dream. More so, another consequence of the irresponsible sexual activity among the youths is sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) which destroys reproductive system. One of such diseases is Vesico Virginal Fesitula (VVF). This is rampant in Middle East African. It creates a through hole connecting the vagina and the bladder in such a way that the patient loses control of her urine and it’s common among adolescent mothers. It brings stigmatization as people tend to avoid the patient due to the urine odour. According to a publication by Ephesian Family Health Education title, “Sexually Transmitted Diseases”, there are many of such diseases young people can contract as a result of irresponsible sexual escapades such as trichomoniasis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, chancroid, herpes, syphilis, genital warts, HIV/AIDS among others. These diseases are destructive to reproductive system while some leads to inevitable death.
Who is responsible for the wide spread sexual immoralities among youths?
Remedies to Sexual Immoralities among Youths
What then do we do to save this generation? All hope is not lost but there is a lot of work to be done if sexual promiscuity among the youth could be curbed. In the first, place parents should give their children and wards sex education. Should they fail in this duty; young people will be misinformed by their peers who believe that virginity is no longer the dignity of a young woman. Parents should be closer to their children especially the female once to know their need so as to provide and advise them thus averting a suspicious gift from ill-minded people. The book of Deut 16: 19 states, “A gift doth blind the eyes of the wise” and according to Ecc. 7:7, “A gift destroys the heart”.
Girls should avoid a hiding company with boy(s) to keep temptation at bay. They should strive for chaste and keep their virginity. This is the dignity of womanhood. Your husband if marries you a virgin will appreciate you and never distrust you. His confidence will rest in you. He will forever be proud of you and will not cease to praise you in the public. Males should learn self-control and discipline as this is the only solution to their exorbitant sexual urge. There should be value reorientation in our society to curtail the evil of materialism and its urge. Everybody should rise against the immoral act of indecent dressing as churches and mosque may not win the battle alone. Authorities should be mindful of what is been air on the TV and internet and ban should be place on uncensored materials to safeguard the mind of our youths.
Finally, young people should give their lives to Jesus Christ. They should endeavor to attend their religious programmes and hear the word of God regularly. The Book of Psalm 119: 105 says, “Your word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path”. If they could come closer to God, He will certainly fill them with His Grace to conquer sexual temptations and achieve their dreams in life to the happiness and joy of their parents. Remember you are the future leaders. Forget today and work towards a greater future for yourself and your nation.