Child Abuse : Signs, Tragic Mistakes and Ways to Deal with Emotional Abuse.
Child abuse is defined as every act that causes trauma, injury, pain, fear, threat, a sense of guilt or dislike,even death and can lead to a child's serious psychical, mental and psychological damage and in most severe cases to fatality.
It is recognised as : sexual, psychical, emotional-psychological, and in later years negligence is also taken as a form of abuse.
The most difficult among all to diagnose, is emotional abuse but it is certified by researches that whenever a child is abused in any other of the aforementioned forms or a combination of the above, it is always also emotionally abused.
Psychological/ emotional child abuse actions can include reject, bullying, isolation, exploitation and socially deviating behaviors.
The sentimentally and psychologically abused, therefore unstable, child appears to other people (who are falsely rushed to put a label on the child) as a person :
- with aggressive behavior
- a lot of stress
What are the signs that could trigger some thoughts ?
Children that have been abused could tend to:
- cry far more easier than an average child of the same age
- suffer from more nightmares
- have strange fears and phobias
- be more demanding than before
- have that " freezing look" as a typical facial expression
- have sudden range bursts
- develop a sense of cautiousness and seem to have the urge to be ready for anything bad that is about to happen
- are over compliant and submissive
- are too aggressive and at times also suicidal
- incline towards others and desperately want to just run away from all
- seem to have a reduced ability to find something that pleases them.
Signs that could also alert parents, teacher and any adult :
- If a child suddenly feels it has no worth
- has often headaches or stomach aches that medicine or other psychological reasons can not explain
- if a child comes first at school and other activities and stays until late with no intention and will to return home
- any sudden change in the child's behavior at school
- any sudden learning difficulty
- has sudden aggressive behavior
- tends to just run away from everything
Parents make tragic mistakes when they :
- pass constant negative judgement such as "You are useless", " You are a bad boy/girl", "Gosh, you are so stupid" and so on.
- keep on counting against their child when always comparing it to others that do better at school.
- create a sense of guilt to the child (e.g " I'm gonna die because of you" "It's all your fault")
- humiliate their child ( e.g. "I wish you weren't born", " what have I done to deserve a child like you?" )
- reject and deprive their child from love,support,tenderness,guidance and affection.
- have extreme forms of punishment like locking in dark rooms and deprivation of food and/or water.
Some steps we could take as parents:
- to be a loving parent. Children need to feel they are loved, special and capable of making dreams and trying to make them come true.
- to help out other parents by babysitting their child and letting them have some time for themselves or for each other. Being a parent is not an easy thing to do and we know it.
- whenever everyday problems seem to get into to us, let us just take a break and have some moments in privacy instead of bursting out to our children. It's not their fault anyway.
- always keep an eye on whatever your child is watching on t.v or surfs in the net.
- be patient and seek inner calm. Is we are O.K , so wil our child be.
- most and above all. . . . treat your child as equal, with all the love it deserves. That way it would be a strong, happy,creative, new member in society.
The World Day for Prevention of Child Abuse is on November 19, although the world's children should need no world days to remind them they have rights.
After all. . . . .
Let us all remember that self respect as well as abuse , are taught by example.
© 2012 litsabd