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Discipline don't Abuse

Updated on September 8, 2012

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I feel that is it high time for someone to say it is okay to discipline your children with a spanking without being accused of child abuse. It is how you spank your child that defines your discipline method as Child Abuse. Today you see more and more disrespectful youths, misbehaving adolescents and finally out of control teens. I believe that we see this more today because parents are afraid they may be accused of abusing their children should they use harsher punishments. Some parents feel that spanking their children teaches them that violence is okay. You could not be more wrong believe it or not children want to be disciplined this is what lets them know you really care. Children know the difference between discipline and abuse; just as they know the difference between right and wrong.

Proverbs is one book that speaks how parents need to discipline their children.

13:1 1 A wise child accepts a parent’s discipline; [a]
a mocker refuses to listen to correction.

13:3 3 those who control their tongue will have a long life;
opening your mouth can ruin everything.

19:18 18 Discipline your children while there is hope.
Otherwise you will ruin their lives.

20:11 11 even children are known by the way they act,
whether their conduct is pure, and whether it is right.

I had this one friend whose mom acted more like her friend than her parent she was a single mother like my mom. My friend was an elementary school age girl who dressed like she was in high school, wore makeup like she was in college, hung out in the street and cursed like she was in her thirties. Whenever she was corrected for misbehaving she would back talk the adult word for word and curse them, when threatened with calling her mom she would say, “Call her she isn’t going to do anything she doesn’t care what I do.” I still remember the very thought which crossed my mind when my sister called me to tell that my friend had die in a car accident at age 23. I thought about how many times I heard the phrase “when you disrespect your elders you shorten you days,” I do not know this to be true but it has stuck with me to this day.

I was a victim of child abuse for a very long time during my childhood, I was hit with objects other than a belt, or open hand, and I was hit in places other than my behind. When I was a child you couldn’t accidentally break a dish without a beating or excessive punishment. Mom gave us harsh punishments and beating because she didn’t know any other way to get us to obey her every word. As a single mother with four beautiful daughters she thought it would be better to scare us into doing as we were told instead of taking our word for it.

She started us very young understanding what happens when we disobeyed, or lied so by the time we were teenage girls we knew if we were going to be daring mom had better not find out. Her method was not the best method for today’s standards but it was the method that kept all four of us from becoming 16 year old mothers, high school drop outs, or drug addicts.

I know what I was like when my mother was not around, just as most of you remember what you were like when your parents were not around, and we did not have all of the outside influences that our children have today. It is much easier for them to pull the wool over our eyes then it was for us with our parents. Children must have discipline and boundaries if your child is disrespectful and back talks to you, you can rest assure they do it to other adults also.

Thanks for listening,

Raven


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