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Children In Trouble What Are They Missing or What Are We Missing

Updated on May 3, 2011

Somethings On Her Mind


Is Something Missing

Children in trouble seems to be the norm these days. They are in trouble with the law, in school, at home, hurting themselves or others. What are they missing, or is it what are we missing?

If you turn on your computer, watch the news, read a paper, or listen to the radio, it seems like it’s a normal occurrence to hear of a child robbing a store, shooting someone, drugs, rape, stealing cars, gangs, assault and battery, teenage girls dropping off babies, suicide, etc. I can’t remember a time in my life when this seemed so acceptable, or like it was normal. When you talk to someone about it it’s like “Oh yeah I heard about that”, like it’s not even a shock that a 13 year old killed someone, or a 10 year old committed suicide, (rising at an alarming rate). Did you know that suicide is the third leading cause of death ages 15-24, and has doubled in ages 5-14 in the last 10 years. Excuse me what 5 yr old thinks about suicide and how do we not know what is going on with them

What has happened to our society that we have chosen to accept this as normal, or has the rate of children in trouble just grown so fast that we don’t know what to do anymore because everything we have tried isn’t working

A Different Trend

As time has passed having worked with children years ago and dealing with
them now in my personal life, I have noticed a trend. Children don’t seem to have that “go to” person anymore, other than friends who don‘t always give the best advice.

In the past children always seemed to have an adult mentor, or I call them a “go to girl/guy” that they could talk to, well not just talk to, basically spill their guts and heart out to. Whether it was a teacher, parent, family friend, neighbor, coach, whoever it was could be trusted unequivocally. They were that one person that our children wanted to be most alike, they could tell anything to, talk about sex, girlfriends/boyfriends, parents, problems with friends or bullies, etc. That isn’t the norm anymore and I think I know why.

Today things have changed. Whether it’s because teachers, neighbors, friends are to aware of what other people might think if they are to close to a child (like that somehow has become not normal), or someone may accuse the relationship of being something else, or just not having the time, it is one of the tragedies of today’s youth and a large contribution to children in trouble.

I understand that we are worried about sexual predators, and teacher student relationships, and not trusting anyone, but have we taken it to the extreme of sacrificing what is best for the child. They need someone to look up to, to trust and confide in, to ask the questions they can’t ask you (not because you’re a bad person because they’re to embarrassed). To have that someone in their life when they just feel like everything is falling apart and they can’t take it anymore, that will give them strength and hope.

So What Can We Do?

Today I’m going to ask you to take a leap of faith. If you’re a teacher. neighbor, volunteer, friend, or a parent and one of your children has a friend who you know is having problems ask them if they are ok. Tell them if there is anything they want to talk about that you’re a good listener. If your not that “go to” connection type person then find someone who is and let them know you think that child might need some help.

If your child has that “go to” person walk up to them today and say thank you for being there for your child. You never know what circumstances they have prevented for you, and what they have done to give your child a better outlook on life. Or better yet, send an anonymous card thanking them for being there for our children.

We always look at heroes as those who rescue people in burning cars, or drowning victims, nurses, soldiers, and tend to forget about those who impact and save our children lives everyday Maybe if we start recognizing them more eventually more will come to surface.

Remember the children of today will be deciding our futures tomorrow.

Make it an incredible day. You deserve it.


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    • Charlu profile image

      Charlu 5 years ago from Florida

      Hi Peggy Thank you for your ever so valid and true comments. Priorities seem to have changed with so many these days and in my opinion not for the better. Thanks again for your valuable time and comments.

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      Peggy Woods 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Hi Charlu,

      I agree with your thoughts. Often children are pushed to the side while the parents are pursuing things deemed more important to them. If they HAVE children, those children should be their first priority! Children DO need someone in whom they can confide and trust.

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      Charlu 6 years ago from Florida

      Hi Fucsia Thank you for your time and wonderful comment. Children and animals are very special to me They sometimes deserve so much more than what they get. Thanks again so much for sharing and I'll talk to you soon.

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      Charlu 6 years ago from Florida

      Hi Fucsia Thank you for your time and wonderful comment. Children and animals are very special to me They sometimes deserve so much more than what they get. Thanks again so much for sharing and I'll talk to you soon.

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      fucsia 6 years ago

      I very like your Hub. The World is full of unknown heroes.

      If we love a child, or simply if we respect life, we have to give to him/her a hand to walk safe in this World.

      Thanks for sharing this touching page.

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      Charlu 6 years ago from Florida

      Hi Mrs Menagerie Thank you for reading, your vote, and your comment I love kids and just think sometimes they're missing so much. Have a great day and take care.

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      Mrs. Menagerie 6 years ago from The Zoo

      This hub is very insightful and your observations are keen. Voted up.

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      Charlu 6 years ago from Florida

      Hi Mr Happy and thank you for reading and your comment. I love that saying! It is so true because in the end they will be helping us end our journey. Thanks again

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      Mr. Happy 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      Good. Very good actually. Thank you for writing this.

      I heard a Native elder once say that: "We borrow this world from our children." We have to act responsibly. Preparing and supporting children for their journey in life is critical.

      All the best.

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      Charlu 7 years ago from Florida

      thank you It's hard for children today and even harder on the parents Unfortunately some children don't have their parents to rely on They are in county or state children homes, not because of what they did but due to their parents. Thanks again and have an incredible day

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      SEO Expert Kerala 7 years ago from KERALA

      nowadays children are not in hands of parents today's trends is so dangerous. Only parents are there who can stops their child to go in bad path. You had mentioned a right path parents should be the good listener and also know what their child actually needs. Nice hub.