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Children In Trouble What Are They Missing or What Are We Missing
Somethings On Her Mind
Is Something Missing
Children in trouble seems to be the norm these days. They are in trouble with the law, in school, at home, hurting themselves or others. What are they missing, or is it what are we missing?
If you turn on your computer, watch the news, read a paper, or listen to the radio, it seems like it’s a normal occurrence to hear of a child robbing a store, shooting someone, drugs, rape, stealing cars, gangs, assault and battery, teenage girls dropping off babies, suicide, etc. I can’t remember a time in my life when this seemed so acceptable, or like it was normal. When you talk to someone about it it’s like “Oh yeah I heard about that”, like it’s not even a shock that a 13 year old killed someone, or a 10 year old committed suicide, (rising at an alarming rate). Did you know that suicide is the third leading cause of death ages 15-24, and has doubled in ages 5-14 in the last 10 years. Excuse me what 5 yr old thinks about suicide and how do we not know what is going on with them
What has happened to our society that we have chosen to accept this as normal, or has the rate of children in trouble just grown so fast that we don’t know what to do anymore because everything we have tried isn’t working
A Different Trend
As time has passed having worked with children years ago and dealing with
them now in my personal life, I have noticed a trend. Children don’t seem to have that “go to” person anymore, other than friends who don‘t always give the best advice.
In the past children always seemed to have an adult mentor, or I call them a “go to girl/guy” that they could talk to, well not just talk to, basically spill their guts and heart out to. Whether it was a teacher, parent, family friend, neighbor, coach, whoever it was could be trusted unequivocally. They were that one person that our children wanted to be most alike, they could tell anything to, talk about sex, girlfriends/boyfriends, parents, problems with friends or bullies, etc. That isn’t the norm anymore and I think I know why.
Today things have changed. Whether it’s because teachers, neighbors, friends are to aware of what other people might think if they are to close to a child (like that somehow has become not normal), or someone may accuse the relationship of being something else, or just not having the time, it is one of the tragedies of today’s youth and a large contribution to children in trouble.
I understand that we are worried about sexual predators, and teacher student relationships, and not trusting anyone, but have we taken it to the extreme of sacrificing what is best for the child. They need someone to look up to, to trust and confide in, to ask the questions they can’t ask you (not because you’re a bad person because they’re to embarrassed). To have that someone in their life when they just feel like everything is falling apart and they can’t take it anymore, that will give them strength and hope.
So What Can We Do?
Today I’m going to ask you to take a leap of faith. If you’re a teacher. neighbor, volunteer, friend, or a parent and one of your children has a friend who you know is having problems ask them if they are ok. Tell them if there is anything they want to talk about that you’re a good listener. If your not that “go to” connection type person then find someone who is and let them know you think that child might need some help.
If your child has that “go to” person walk up to them today and say thank you for being there for your child. You never know what circumstances they have prevented for you, and what they have done to give your child a better outlook on life. Or better yet, send an anonymous card thanking them for being there for our children.
We always look at heroes as those who rescue people in burning cars, or drowning victims, nurses, soldiers, and tend to forget about those who impact and save our children lives everyday Maybe if we start recognizing them more eventually more will come to surface.
Remember the children of today will be deciding our futures tomorrow.
Make it an incredible day. You deserve it.