How to Stay in Love With Your Children
devote your life to being a parent
Having children isn't just something everyone does because that is what we are taught. Get married, have children, retire. It does not happen like that in most cases. Sometimes we have the children first. That is where it needs to end. I am overwhelmed with shame when I see people that have not gotten that. Have you ever heard the saying "it takes a village to raise a child"? I believe it does, but you have to make that village. It isn't just dumping your children off wherever you deem fit for your own personal desires. Being a single parent, or just parents, you have to devote the majority of you life for a number of years to parenting. If it were that easy, to just have a child and being able to financially support it, more babies would be out there. Your village does not need to be big, but you need to be the leader. It makes me sick watching these TV shows, like The Real Housewives of Atlanta, where Kim has all these kids, yet all these nannies because she has to make alllll this money. I myself, would rather spend MORE time with my children than working. How can you do that? You find ways. Your village would be encouraging you to. The most important bond you will ever make, besides with God, is mother to child. Life happens, I get that. But when life gets hard, when you want to find a new lover, a new career, you have to understand, and not just say it, that your child is the most important part of you life. It is our first priority in this world. Not just for ourselves, but for the world around us. What else is more important, than being a mother? It isn't being the president, being a manager, nor is it being the best girlfriend. Stay devoted moms, your children need you the most. Get over yourself and the media. We don't need to be concentrating on contouring, drinking, having a good time, men, or ourselves. Our most important job is raising our children right. Don't get caught up in the real world, it is ugly and will only take away from your children. Spend the hours getting messy, cleaning and watch your children learn from you. Work can wait, the boyfriend can wait, the degree can wait. The time, the relationship, cannot be replaced. True sacrifice does not go unnoticed. Be the best mom because that is your calling in life. Don't be the mom that has to take care of her children because she's forced. It isn't fair. Having children is a life long commitment. Do not fall out of love with your children. Being a lazy parent is not giving your child the best. Let's show our children what true sacrifice and devotion really is. Don't lose the the motivation, there is plenty of lessons in life for our children to learn from. Be the passionate mother and do not ever let anyone tell you differently. We do not need what everyone says we need. Get used to your kids, and let them be themselves. Accept the annoying parts, the nonstop talking, the weird stuff they say. Listen, watch, and be their number one supporter. Everyday is a new day to be the best you can be, for your children. We are their teachers.
There are tough times in this world, it is easy for parents to get caught up in the evil social media world. I would love to get rid of all the singe mom selfies on Facebook. If you love your children, start by devoting part of your life to them. Sacrifice a little more. Feel it, believe it, do it.
“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.”
― Benjamin Franklin
“We cannot always build the future for our youth, but we can build our youth for the future.”
― Franklin D. Roosevelt
“To be in your children's memories tomorrow,
You have to be in their lives today.”
― Barbara Johnson