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Updated on April 6, 2017
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Family life is very Important

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Family Relationships

Are you close enough to your family?

Do you feel estranged from your family?

When you get older, family closeness tends to mean much more than when you were a teenager.

I feel that now!

I miss that connection with my family and will be visiting soon.

I feel there is a big part of me that is missing from inside. My true family time!

No matter what the occasion family life is so important.

I did not know that until my move to Croatia.

Being together would just make it all so perfect in any planned way.

As I yearn to go back home I thought of writing this hub.

Do I feel estrangement?

Sometimes I do feel that way but for different reasons.

Living far away from home does make me feel that way.

I feel emotionally detached but not fully.

I feel disconnected from my family and living in Europe makes it harder.

The decision made was a tough one that had to be during that time.

I realize it was a hasty one and going away from my family had taught me to be stronger and fitter in many ways.

Some people don't have contact with their family for years on due to bad habits or illnesses. It is not a place to blame anyone for the way it all turns out.

Families who have experienced traumatic issues can drift away forever.

Even on one's death bed it is hard for one to forgive and move on.

When you lose yourself in the thoughts of not talking to your family, in such bad times it can be hard to live with through the years.

It can be from abusive relationships to addictions.

A family with a solid foundation can help each other through all times.

A family with a weak foundation often falls apart during all times.

All families are not the same instead of biting one's head off try to discuss the matter.

Walking away is not going to fix the problem.

Appreciate what family you have than to take advantage of and to take life for granted.

When people find each other it is for a reason. Love and care for who you know will always be there for you.

Often understanding gets in the way of communication and most of family members don't hear or listen properly to the situation before adding on the extra words.

I had a close-net family until I decided to live this far off.

I know when my family and I get together we will reconnect again.

What about those who are stubborn to forgive and move on?

Daughters don't speak to their dads or mothers don't speak their sons these are such silly mistakes.

In many cases disagreements lead to damaged family relationships.

Families are cut off and feel like strangers when in public.

Where is the love with these families?

You should not feel as a stranger when with family or as the side dish.

You should feel like the main course meal served to you on a platter.

Feel important in a family circle.

Feel comfortable not uncomfortable with family.

Love, acceptance and forgiveness takes time.

You got to remain calm and think about the problem before reacting on your thoughts.

Childhood experiences can be rough on you, that is if you had experienced such issues.

People can be cold and harsh toward you during this time.

When always having issues to deal with this can make one feel most alone even when not alone.

The behaviors of certain family members can be intolerable.

Admitting they are wrong is not always the case.

Hurtful wounds don't heal easily.

How many times have you told yourself, ''if only it was?''

It takes hard work to rebuild relationships. It is easy to bail out and think it is the right way to be.

Jealousy can be another reason for family living apart.

It may surprise or shock you but jealousy is a problem with many families.

You must understand the reasons for keeping your distance from family members.

Some families can be cold toward one another for keeping secrets from each other.

Difficult family relationships are hard to work through.

I have always been close with my immediate family. Though not with the rest of the family, like with my aunts.

They have showed their jealousy toward us and the whole understanding concept did not work out well for me.

It is a problem in many families and is not often ignored.

One would be fond of their nieces while the other will gossip about the other and that can go on and on for years to come.

Choices are made differently and when considering family, the decisions you make can hurt many innocent members.

I decided for myself and could no longer listen to the jealous conversations of certain individuals. I don't miss that part of my family just my closest of family.

No family life is perfect!

I did not look for perfection in my family but for the closeness we once shared.

First marriages and second marriages are all part family problems.

These situations become the problem when one member fails to be part of another family.

For example:

He divorced and remarried.

In the process he lost touch with his daughter from the first marriage. She had completely cut off her dad from her life. Forgiving is hard and here it shows that the daughter will not forgive her dad for leaving her mother.

Marriages too can pull apart good family life.

Different beliefs can bring a close family to a less-connected family.

Distances can hurt loving families.

It all depends on the reasons for having that distance.

People live different lifestyles and more stressful lives daily. Keeping apart for silly mistakes can be heart sore.

Keep your family life full of life. It is easy to get angry and go into your room and shut the door.

Those are the little incidents that can lead to bigger incidents that one day leave you with regret.

Rebuild that foundation and grow up.

Learn from each other and love your family through all times.

Be grateful for your loving family.

If you feel you did not work hard enough to earn a decent family lifestyle, it is never too late to make things right for you and your family.

Don't hide away from the truth always face up to the truth or the lie told.

Having a family makes you feel positive about life and its experiences.

You don't need to feel alone when you have family.

There is always someone for you to talk to or to accept you.

When a family member passes on it is good to have a clear mind after their death. Keeping the bad stuff inside you can ruin your daily events.

You can find normality if you work hard toward that once good family times you have had together.

Show interest in your family and any time spent with family is precious.

A short conversation on the telephone can make you feel at your best.

Be in control of your mind and make that family time.

Any problem between a mother and daughter can be an everlasting issue.

In the following case:

The mother and daughter don’t speak to each other.

The daughter is seeing a psychiatrist and the daughter would not even accept a letter from the mother.

The mother is heartbroken!

The daughter refuses to see her mother.

Nothing or no one can change the daughter's mind into talking to her mother.

The mother feels it is all her fault.

The mother does not know the reason for the daughter keeping this distance from her.

The daughter has some mental issues thus the reason for not speaking to her mother. The mother does not understand these mental problems.

Some situations are unexplained and difficult to understand.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi chaitanyasaivb well said. I feel the same way thank you for commenting.

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      Sai Chaitanya 2 years ago from INDIA

      It is really necessary for any one, to have close relationship, with their family members. Because, with out them, we may lead our life, but, it won't be colorful.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you very much for stopping by here.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      sunilkunnoth2012 thank you once again for stopping by at my hubs.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. thank you for all votes and your comments are valuable to me.

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I'm glad that you will be visiting your family soon, Devika. You are so right - it does take hard work to rebuild relationships, but the process can be very worthwhile.

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 2 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      A nice topic and decent presentation. You have narrated your points on the family relation clearly. Love is the most important feelings, which you have stressed through this thought provoking article. Thank you for sharing some wonderful thoughts.

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      Dave 2 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Hi, Once again you have delivered a no-nonsense view of another set of human relations and emotions. the old adage,you can choose your friends but not your family, is apt. Close family ties are a very precious thing, but not always possible for many people for a diverse number of reasons. Voted up,useful and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      denise.w.anderson thank you for sharing your experience with family I fully understand your point of vie where. Life is just that.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker nicely thought of thank you I don't worry just concerned.

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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Both my husband and I come from large extended families. At first we were close to each other when we were young, but death and distance have come between many family members. It is hard to resolve the issues that come up when we disagree on the way things should be done for family get-togethers and family matters having to do with aging parents and wayward children. Your admonition to set aside differences and communicate love is very timely for me.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I have many close family all I love and only some I like. But that is how it is and I stopped worrying about it. But my own family is six so that keeps me busy enough.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway thank you and i know exactly what you mean have a nice day.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ologsinquito thank you so glad you came by.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader, thank you for sharing your views here.

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      I enjoy my family connections, although some are more enjoyable than others if you know what I mean.

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      ologsinquito 2 years ago from USA

      It's so important to maintain family connections, but so much more difficult when separated by distance.

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      jtrader 2 years ago

      Good points. It is hard when people won't admit they are wrong and even refuse to hear your own apologies.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you for stopping by I understand your point of view.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is always interesting to read your thoughts. Of my original family, there is only me left....now my son...and my wife and her children...so I'm not sure I have any comment on close family relationships based on my past before Bev.