Co-Parenting For Divorced Couples
When a couple chooses to either seperate or divorice they not only have their own emotions to deal with, for those that have children they need to address their emotions as well. The decision on how to approach this issue should be agreed upon as parents. From the time you decision is made, you will need to put your feelings about each other aside and be the parents your children need and deserve. The ideas I've listed below come from my own experience and what I learned while going through my own divorce, the issues that popped up and how my children felt in certain situations. As I am sure you are all aware, each situation is different and adjustments have to be made.
Form a game plan when making decisions.
- Decide how you will explain the situation to the children. Both parents should be involved in this discussion.
- Plan the visitation schedule.
- Don't overcompensate. Work on keeping the sample set of rules/discipline, bedtime, tv time.
- Both Parents should form a united front and maintain the same set rules, discipline, consequences for misbehaving. This will negate the children from pitting on parent against the other.
- Keeping the same rules, discipline also avoids un-necessary confusion for the children.
- Never make any negative comments regarding the other parent in front of the children.
- Don't allow anyone else to make negative comments in front of the children.
- Never put them in the middle of any situation. They are already traumatized and you should do your best to keep things on an even keel.
- Dating, don't push the children into accepting your new boyfriend or girlfriend. Give them time to adjust and graudually begin the introductions, forcing the issues can cause resentment of the other person.