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Comments that can hurt
As we go through life, there will always be comments whether it is good or bad, or just some constructive criticism. I think that as life goes on, family is important and they are there for when you need them the most, however sometimes they can be the ones that hurt you the most just through what they say.
Parents love their children and they want them to become someone in their life ahead of them. They show their love by giving positive feedback, or sometimes they show their love by giving harsh feedback believing that it will help their child grow up stronger. But sometimes it doesn't happen that way. As a child, I have always received positive feedback, whether it is from teachers, employers, friends, but when it comes from my parents their positive, good comments made me happy, knowing they were proud of me. But there are times when not all comments made are always good, somehow it seems that those comments can really affect a person in a negative way depending how they take it.
You know that saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" well, it isn't always true. Words do hurt and especially when it comes from someone you love, whether it is a parent, brother, sister, and even your spouse. Sometimes people don't always think before they realize what they say and before you know it, that person you have just made the comment to has just been hurt deep, but of course they won't say anything because they don't want that person who made the comment to see them as weak.
Family is there for each other, but what happens when just one little comment or criticism affects the one you love. I'm thinking many things happen, they start to drift apart, not talk to each other, get into more arguments. Then comes that one thought right after you have said those words to that person who is now hurting inside, "What did I just say, why didn't I just keep it to myself, or I meant it another way, they just misunderstood me". However, the words were already out of your mouth and the person affected now is trying to figure out why you said what you said to them.
It is important to realize that we all have feelings and we all have different thoughts. We even take things differently than others would. We all need to be careful with what we tell the ones we love or maybe even work with. Especially when it comes to parenting, I'm not a parent yet, but I do know some parents that all they have is negative comments towards their children thinking that they are going to make them stronger. But it doesn't always happen that way, even as the children grow they look towards their parents for support, however, if all parents say is negative comments or criticisms then they are pushing their children away from them, they are drifting apart and one thing that we don't need is a family torn apart. We need to stick together as a family and be there for each other, instead of negative comments, say something good. Sometimes we need to know the truth about things, say it in a positive way, not in a negative way.
Think before you say something, don't regret what you will tell someone after you see their face and how you have hurt their feelings. This goes not just for parents, siblings, friends but also for other people out there. Think of how you would feel it that was you in their shoes.