- Family and Parenting
Communicate the right way
Are you communicating?
One of the most common problems in the classic American household is the lack of communication. Usually if someone is having a problem with his sister he'll go and talk to one of his parents or some friends. Now, that's not necessarily bad. It's great to talk to other people about conflicts or problems in your life. They can give you advice on how to act towards the situation you're in or they can provide a nice third party view, which is incredibly eye opening.
Third party perspective
When you're in a rough situation it's super easy to get lost in your emotions. whether that's anger, pride, sadness, or even emotions like love. Our emotions crowd our way of thinking in a way that makes thinking logically nearly impossible. They make our mind all foggy and hard to guide, like driving a car in the early morning. However, that doesn't mean emotions are bad. Emotions are a lot of times what lead us to brave and beneficial decisions. It's just hard to tell if your emotions are reliable.
That's why having an outsiders view is so great! Having someone who can analyze the situation without the barricade of emotions that crowd judgment. It provides a whole new perspective that can't be obtained by someone in the middle of the problem.
But that's not the end of it. Yeah, you got a new perspective. But what are you going to do with that?
Confront the sourse
With this fresh new look on the situation you should go to the person that is causing the problems. Beating around the bush never helps. In conflicts, it's best to go to the person that you have a problem with instead of talking bad about them behind their back, because that has no benefit at all. By going the the source, you are initiating a remedy to the problem and you are the one who's making peace in it.
By being the bigger person in the situation and confronting the problem, it creates this sense of peace after everything is settled. You grow in so many ways when you just put your pride aside and do what should be done.