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Creative Ideas Keep Pre-Teens Occupied and Productive
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Pre-teens or "tweens" are a funny age group. Here are some ideas to have happy and sane parents who need ideas to use with their kids. They need to be busy or they'll drive their parents crazy. Sitting in front of the television, every day or playing video games all night is pointless. Adults in their lives need to come up with creative ways to keep them out of trouble. Learning new skills, volunteering or some sport can be the best answer.
The Dreaded School Break with the Kids
I know there are millions of parents who are tired of hearing their kids say “I'm bored.”Anytime there is a vacation or break, your kids will need to be entertained or occupied, otherwise, there may be trouble.
Preteens or “tweens” are defined as the ages of 9-12, still young enough to be considered a child, but not quite a teenager. This is a funny age and girls are usually more advanced that boys, so don't assume they will want the same things. Scheduling their activities and having a written contract in place that you all participated in is a big help.
Most of my friends have dreaded the vacations and summer breaks because they need to find babysitters, classes or some creative outlet for their youngsters. Leaving them home to be entertained by the television or computer, is not a wise decision today. The internet is unsafe and parental controls need to be initiated. I had to help a family member set the parental controls on their computer because they never used one. Kids will take full advantage of a parent who is computer illiterate.
Activities depend on Locale
What you plan depends entirely on your locale as well. If you reside in a rural area, then more outdoor activities may be appropriate. Country kids love to ride ATV or “4-wheelers” as they refer to them.
Have the older kids take a hike with younger children may be fun. They can see how many butterflies they can count, or teach younger children how to count their steps.They also have county fairs and competitions to prepare for. Raising animals and caring for them is a full-time job for kids on a farm or ranch.
Another idea is the boys and girls scouts organizations.Activities can be planned ahead of time so they are kept busy with worthwhile activities. Scouts can teach responsibility, caring for others, survival skills, and have fun hiking and camping.
Suburban kids will probably want to hang out at the mall but they can get into trouble there. Setting time limits and written contracts always helps everyone know what's expected. If they go to the mall they must have a definite purpose, such as watching a movie, joining a walking club, or going on a “scavenger hunt.” Make it creative and fun; not mindless time killing.
City dwellers have many programs in place as well as a wealth of cultural activities to occupy their time. Museums have programs for kids, libraries have field trips, and schools have summer arts and crafts programs. Parent groups can set up some activities. I know homeschool groups are a wealth of information and may be able to provide some guidance to other parents.
Preteens can work with younger children
Since pre-teens are too young to work at a real camp, then making up a local camp is a good option.When I was a teenager, my friend and I set up a day camp type of summer school program for the local children on our street. We charged a small weekly fee to cover materials, snacks, and miscellaneous expenses for our day-care.
The children were gathered up, one by one from each house at 8 am, and we all walked to the back patio of my partner's home or my garage on rainy days. We had the kids sit on a picnic table with fun activities and some school lessons. For one hour, we taught a math lesson, then a snack break was given for 15 minutes. The next hour, we had a fun crafts activity, such as making stick-houses or finger painting. other days we taught writing or read a story.
Science lessons lead us on walks around the neighborhood gathering insect, rocks, or flowers for discussion. The point is, kids have to be creative. Today I can see having young children using a laptop to learn some simple math games. This activity will give the pre- teens a sense of responsibility and give some valuable time to younger children. It will also help them earn some community service points for their upcoming school year.
Go on a trip to the zoo, volunteer at an animal shelter or aquarium.
Parents can get together and plan a trip to the zoo. I know most are located in larger cities so find a bus company that can take a chartered group to the zoo or animal sanctuary. Learning about animals gives young and older children a renewed respect for them.
Another good place for tweens to help is an animal shelter. The responsible pre- teens can help care for local sheltered that have injured and rescued animals that need human contact. They can help feed, play with and get the word out about adopting a pet. Taking an animal home for the summer provides a valuable lesson about caring and responsibility. Both the animals and person reap the rewards.
The tried and true activity that usually helps parents and kids alike is sports-related. Soccer is an excellent outdoor activity in the summer months. Most kids learn valuable lessons while playing on a team. Baseball, basketball, tennis, badminton, outdoor bowling, golf are other options as well.
Indoor bowling has teams that they can join and occupy their time for a few hours each day. The indoor games such as Wii has video bowling, tennis, baseball, and boxing, that will help them stay physical. I know parking the kids in front of the television or video game is a habit for many, but it just doesn’t teach social skills which are sorely lacking today.
Tweens have lots of energy and ideas so ask them what they want to do and try to accommodate them as reasonable as possible.
Points to remember when dealing with pre-teens
Kids need to be busy not just on summer breaks but all year long on weekends and extended holiday breaks.There resources parents can turn to. Try hard to keep a schedule and contracts.
Remember parent groups such as the PTA, homeschool parent groups, local libraries, YMCA's, town pools, bus companies, are some resources to try. If you can, have a small group of kids go to a different house with a parent present each week. Be prepared with a weekly schedule and have your written contracts in place. Kids need boundaries and to know whats expected of them. It will make your life and theirs a lot happier.
© 2017 Stacie L