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Cure for self Centered Behavior in Youth
A cure for the Self-centered kid
Psychology has answered the question by pointing out the different stages everyone experiences as part of growing up. As Erikson, Rogers, and Bowen theorized, the stage of narcissism lasts from infancy until the person becomes aware that others have feelings and viewpoints. In addition, theylearn how to negotiate with others so that all may get their needs met. Otherwise it may get very lonely. Not everyone makes the transition from adolescence to young adulthood, but remain stuck and unable to keep up with peers. Bad parenting, substance abuse, overly restrictive parents, membership in cults are causes for delayed development, and some never make the transition.
These are the beer swilling, aggressive, showoffs that have never grown up and still define manhood through sports, sexual conquests, and pushing the opposite sex around. Of course there are exceptions. Most individuals who are developmentally delayed may have other poisons, such as casual, criminal behavior they visit upon their neighbors, training outlaw dogs, fighting and vandalism. On the more civilized side, they may hold down jobs and marry and have children. These are the persons that avoid PTA, teachers conferences and contributing more to the community than absolutely necessary. They may be passive aggressive, leaving the responsibilities of maintaining a home to their mate. They may feel no need to spend time with the children and are solitary hobbyists, non-responsive to adult or child conversation, often perched on a favorite chair watching television.
Granny was fond of saying that the cure for the self-centered is to simply put on the years and grow up, find a mate and marry and you will be cured. If only the old homilies would work for us in our complex societies. future changes are likely to be exponential. At warp speed one might say. The individual who stays stuck is going to be left far behind of peers, resenting a second-class life of low paying jobs and serving hamburgers to their achieving friends.