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My Child Has ADHD....What Can I Do To Help Them?
Dealing with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is not something that just the child goes through. It is really hard on parents to learn how to deal with this also. ADHD affects a child sometimes to the point of distraction at school, home and many daily activities they do. Learning how to deal with this can sometimes be difficult, but it can be done.
Most children with ADHD start exhibiting sign between 3-6 years old, but it has been known to display itself later in life. This is diagnosed as Adult ADHD. Learning where to turn first when your child is diagnosed is the key to getting help.
Always remember they are still your child, discipline needs to be a factor in their life. How you discipline may need some fine tuning and new ways of thinking but should always be there. ADHD or not they are still a child and need to have structure and discipline in their life.
Seek A Professional
Once your child is diagnosed with ADHD, discuss all possibilities with your doctor. There are many different levels of ADHD and not all of them will require medication. Your doctor can point you in the right direction for support on how to deal with your child. They will explain to you exactly how this will affect your child and what you can do to help them cope with it. This is something they will have to deal with for a while, medications will not cure ADHD only help relieve some of the symptoms.
Sometimes the best approach is to think outside the box. Many parents have found astounding improvements in their child using alternative methods to medication. Now this may take some more time management juggling on your side but it may be worth it. Weigh the pros and cons of each style and decide for yourself. Just remember you do not have to resort to medication.
Stay in Contact with Teachers
Once your child is diagnosed with ADHD, finding the right teacher is a must. Not all teachers know how to deal with ADHD especially if you have decided to forgo medication.When your child is ready to go to school, check out the teachers to make sure they have dealt with ADHD before. It is not something they will automatically teach them in college. You should always keep in constant contact with your child's teacher. There may be some things that she does in the classroom that help with keeping your child on task. They could also give you ideas on which incentives work to help keep them focused and listening.
There are many things that the teacher may do at school that can also be helpful at home. Being involved in your child's school will be a big factor in how your child handles things. There are even some things you will need to learn. Especially how to have patience and deal with some of the mood swings.
Parents of children with ADHD can not do this alone, you will need to have the support of your spouse/parent to get through this. Have them take over watching the child sometimes. You will need the rest and relaxation to keep your sanity. Take some time to yourself to visit a friend, have your hair done or just watch a movie. Anything that will help you relax and be ready for another round when you get home. Take a brisk walk and clear your head, you may get the best idea yet while you are walking.
ADHD Child and Non ADHD Child
Take a Breath
There is not a specific manual on how to deal with ADHD, you just need to find out what works best for you and stick with it. It may be the smallest thing in the world, but as long as it helps your child then it is fine to use. The biggest thing you will need is patience to deal with ADHD, because there may be days when nothing will work.But stay consistent with what you do.
Just remember your child can not help the way they are feeling and many of the things they do. So be patient and think outside of the box if necessary.
Take Time For Yourself and Your Partner
Dealing with a child that has any type of mental or physical issue is going to consume a HUGE part of your time. It is not a bad thing to set aside some time for your or you and your partner.
Make a date night with each other. Family is normally the first place you may want to check into babysitting for you. They already know your child and your child knows them, less trauma on both sides. If that is not an option then there are many competent sitter websites that do background checks and you can see their qualifications right there.
Take some time just for yourself once in a while also. Because you will be no good to you or your child if you are running on exhaustion. Relax one evening and take a bubble bath, read a book or just go for a walk by yourself. Sometimes it the little things that will make a huge difference.
Your Best Weapon
The best way to help you and your child is to be informed. Research everything there is to know about ADHD. There are thousands of different ways to handle ADHD children and each one is different. What may work for your friends child, may not work for yours.
There is not specific way or standard way to handle an ADHD child, as a parent we can only hope to do our best and learn with our children. Many ADHD children do not understand why they are like this or even realize that they are different in some ways.
Make sure that your child understands that you are there for them no matter what and that you will be right beside them to learn how to deal with their uniqueness even when they are having hard day.