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Dealing With Depression for Teens
I remember when I was a teen there were so many situations that I had to deal with. These situations were not normal and were very taboo They gave me a since of self loathing, guilt, fear, and all around feeling of just wanting to die. There was no one to help me and those that thought they were, just made it worse.
Being a teen is crazy in itself, especially if you are a teen dealing with depression. When you a teen there are so many other things that are going on in your life that you do not know where to start to make it better. The teen is confused, ambitious, hopeful, and CLUELESS on how life really is. They think that when they are older they will have things completely figured out. Truth is, even us, as adults may seem to have everything figured out, we do NOT. We just know how to deal with situations that arise in a better manner. So, those people who seem like they are just trying to meddle actually will help. They will show you how to deal with depression if you really listen. The key is to learn how to cope.
Learning how to cope is not easy. It differs from one to person to another. Those that do not how to cope correctly turn to alcohol or drugs. Not good if you want to stop being depressed. You will need to do a little detective work on yourself. What DEstresses you? Writing, drawing, music?
You know, when I was a teen going through all of that stuff, I was told that talking about it will make it better. It never did. However, now that I am an adult, talking does make it better. But it also depends on what it is that is on my mind. If you do not want to talk about it, then don't. If you are not thinking of hurting yoruself, but just thinking of things that stress yourself out and do not wish to disclose the reasons that you are stressed out then keep it to yourself. Sharing things that you do not want to share will pile on more stress and have the adverse affect. HOWEVER, if you are thinking of HOMICIDE OR SUICIDE then it is CRUCIAL that you talk to a person that you trust to do the right thing for you.
When I say do the right thing for you, I do not mean a friend that will keep a secret and let you get hurt. What I mean is talk to an adult or friend that you trust will do the right thing BY you. Meaning that if you feel like hurting yourself and talking to your parents for you will help, then that is what they will do.
Most of the advice that the school give a teen to deal with depression is in a generic form and will work for all ages and problems. It is up to us all to help one another get through problems because in the end, we are all connected.
Ways to Cope and Deal With Depression:
1. Keep a journal. If you are scared about people finding your journal and reading it, then do something on the computer. Hide a folder in your computer, keep a private blog, etc.
2. Exercise. Exercising actually DOES help with stress and depression. DO thing regardless!
3. Do Good. This may be hard depending on the type of depression and how you feel. BUT if you can find the energy with in yourself to do something good for someone else, you will be amazed at the chain reaction you get. You can even start VERY small.
4. Get Help. If you can not seem to help yourself, there are numbers that you can call anonymously and you will be able to go from there.
5. Be Creative. Here is where I was saying; music, art, writing, etc. You will be surprised at how much this helps. If you are angry, write a short story about a villain If you are sad, express the sorrow in a short story about a person and loss. It gets those feelings out of you and safely onto paper. Besides, keeping those pieces of a story can build into a very powerful book!
IF ALL OF THIS DOES NOT WORK... Here is the numbers that will always be able to help you...
- Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
- Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
- LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
- Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
- Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
- Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
- Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
- Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000