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Dealing with Lazy Teenagers

Updated on September 17, 2011

Few kids are known to give you a hard time, especially teenagers. And to top it up these kids are like lazy, just to add to your woes. How do parents actually handle such situations, where your kids are not just being lazy but also very disrespectful? Irresponsible teens can be a difficult task to deal with and no wonder parents would bubble out with loads and loads of frustration. Teens are often seen busy texting messages, making calls, busy with play stations and so on. Even if you call them out or ask them to do something you hardly get any response. Ignoring to the slothful behavior of these lazy teens may not be that easy for parents to a certain extent. So what if the children are good in every other way, like good in studies, good in activities; but still if they don't follow the house rules or respect your hard work then situations for parents can get a bit difficult. It may so happen that your constant complaints may just fall on deaf ear and they wouldn't even bother to care. That can be little hurtful for parents, when their words and advice are overheard or not cared for! Dealing with lazy teenagers thus could be a difficult task to handle for parents.

When parents find it difficult to handle, they take certain drastic steps like sending kids to boarding school and implementing strict rules. Does enforcing such tough rules really help parents to achieve desired results like helping children quit laziness? I don’t think so, in fact in such cases a child may just drift away from his parents due to severe misunderstandings.

Why certain rules are set out by parents

Parents try to set off certain rules to ensure that the house runs well. Additionally few rules are also set by parents to help kids to learn to be responsible, to behave well, to correct themselves and also be a better person when they grow up.

Dealing with lazy teenagers

As we do admit that strict measures and drastic steps may not be any help to deal with this situation, yet there could be few ways which can help parents to deal with lazy teenagers.

1. Set out certain rules and stick by them, whatever happens. Rules like making your own bed, organizing your rooms, keeping books and toys in place after use, etc etc can be really important.

2.An undeniable fact – if you don’t set the rules for your kids when they young, then how do you expect them to abide by those rules when they grow up. Always ensure that the rules you set are followed by your kids right from early age.

3. Decide specific times and limits for television watching and for computer games. Strictly follow the plan and never get flexible with that. Instead encourage children to play outdoors or to spend time developing hobbies or their other creative aspects.

4. Assign teens few household tasks, which may help them to learn taking responsibility. Anyway which book says that only parents have to take care of household chores, let children too be part of it!

5. Don’t forget to thank or compliment you child for finishing the task he or she has been assigned.

6. Try to spend qualitative time with your children. You can help them with homework, project work, go shopping, watch movies or just chat with them.

7. Don’t be harsh with your lazy teen if he can’t handle the task very well in the beginning. Handle the situation with some patience.

8. Help your child to be consistent, which plays a major role in getting rid of laziness in teens.

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      Fellow Mumbaite 4 years ago from India

      Hey Lizam1 you could be right about the term, but one thing for sure, one can't just blame parents for the sour relationship they tend to develop with their teens. Not always. Its always a two way process. And its always okay when it ends up to golf or similar things, but we are talking about taking responsibility and learning to deal with situations :)

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      Fellow Mumbaite 4 years ago from India

      Thanks Kimberly Vaughn for reading and voting up..

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      Kimberly Vaughn 4 years ago from Midwest

      Great suggestions! Voted up!

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      Lizam1 5 years ago from Victoria BC

      Using words such as lazy is really not helpful. Teenagers and relationships with teenagers usually turn sour because of the parents behaviour, lack of relationship building and inconsistency. In my work with "difficult teens" 90% of the work is with the parents. Society has an ageist attitude to teens which is not helpful - imagine if everyone over 70 was called "lazy" just because they wanted to play golf or do things that made them happy:-)

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      Fellow Mumbaite 5 years ago from India

      Thanks Rehana for passing by!! Yes you are right, sometimes over-energetic kids do end up spending their energy doing destructive work, which they assume to be constructive. We need to help these kids utilize their energy into something constructive. Once they realize they are no the right track and there's nothing to stop them at all:)

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      Rehana Stormme 5 years ago

      Great hub! There's also another side to the coin - where you have a teen that has too much energy and ends up occupying himself through destructive habits like drug abuse. It's also a challenge to get your teen to channel their energies into productive habits. In that regard, may be lazier teens are easier to mold. You just need to treat them appropriately and set yourself, the parent, as an example. I totally agree about setting rules for your children at an early stage. Once again, great hub! Voted up and useful!

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      Fellow Mumbaite 6 years ago from India

      Yes I believe most of us need to tackle this situation or it gets worse for most of us. Hopefully people who need to deal with lazy teenagers may find this hub useful..Thanks Thelma Alberts for visiting and reading!

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      Thelma Alberts 6 years ago from Germany

      Thanks for these useful tips. Great hub. I can apply these tips to my teenager relatives who are living in my house.

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      Fellow Mumbaite 6 years ago from India

      Thanks Sneha Sunny for reading the hub and finding it useful...

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      Sneha Sunny 6 years ago from India

      Nice tips....... These are useful... :)

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      Fellow Mumbaite 6 years ago from India

      Yep..naturalsolutions you are right..However parents can always help the kids to realize how much they get and how they should be thankful about it to God! Also the kids should be asked to use whatever resources are made available to them by their parents and nature in a right manner.

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      naturalsolutions 6 years ago

      It's up to the parents on how they used to raise their children. I believe that the environment is the biggest thing to consider in a child's behavior and character.

      you are right, the parents always want give the best for their children, but if the child appreciate it in a wrong way, they will probably become lazy and unaware.

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      Fellow Mumbaite 6 years ago from India

      Thanks again tillsontitan..Glad you liked it! That's what the whole point is all about. Parents need to take up the responsibility about training their kids from an early age. Once things go far and out of their hand, there is no point in complaining about it!

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      Mary Craig 6 years ago from New York

      Your points are well taken. Teens can be lazy and it is certainly difficult for parents to deal with. Nipping it in the bud is the best way, i.e. teaching them when they are young. Nice article. Voted up.

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      Fellow Mumbaite 6 years ago from India

      Thanks naturalsolutions..i m glad you loved the article. Yes you are right about the kids nowadays getting everything in their hand without any efforts, but somewhere down the line we as parents are responsible for the same! But we can't blame parents entirely for the same as parents don't do this with the intention to make their kids lazy, they do it because they want their kids to have the best. But maybe somewhere down the line kids don't realize it!

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      naturalsolutions 6 years ago

      Yes it really gives a stress if a teenager is lazy. Nowadays where all they need is here they become so lazy and unaware to everything.

      I like this blog.

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      Fellow Mumbaite 6 years ago from India

      Hey thanks Slaffery..I am glad you loved the article and it could be useful for you someways. My child is 10 now and somewhere down the line I think I am preparing myself for all this teenage tantrums and laziness from now on!

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      slaffery 6 years ago from Kansas, USA

      I am really glad you wrote this article. I looked up on hubs about teens as I was arguing with mine this evening. You made a lot of good points and I will take them to heart and re-evaluate how I approach him. Voted up and useful