- Family and Parenting
Dealing with the Overprotective Parent is difficult
Strict parenting can be frustrating
The Overprotective parent is difficult in many ways:
This woman is married to a man much older man than she is, and is a divorced father of two grown up children.
The dad has a son of twenty one with his young wife.
The man left his previous family when his children were in their teens, and was a very strict father.
In his sixties he is showing his strict skills with his twenty one year old son.
It can be most frustrating for the wife to cope with her husband. She is fine with their son going out with friends, to parties, or to the often evenings out.
The husband is constantly checking up on the young lad.
· How far would you go to check up on your child while out with friends?
It is time for the young man to meet people and have a social life which is not always the case for many at this age.
Sometimes parents can be too strict with their kids and at this age it should not be that way, but the dad just goes on about their son going out and returning home much too late.
During the holidays or weekends it is understandable for the son to go out with friends.
A time to forget about college and enjoy being with his age group of friends.
The college week is not affected by interruptions of going out with friends.
The overprotective dad does not fully understand his son needs to get out and be with his friends.
In trying to explain the situation it sounds quite difficult for him to take in he feels this way because to him his son is safer at home.
The son is outgoing and confident and does not like to be disturbed when with friends it makes the son look and feel less-confident, especially, when his dad won't stop interfering with his time-out.
The mother sees things differently.
She knows her son won't go astray and that all is fine when he is out of the home.
The problem here is with the overprotective parent he is not in peace and happy when the son is out for the evening.
He sits on the sofa like nothing and no one else exists around him including his wife.
He is happiest when the son is home and is more talkative but otherwise very quiet. Silence kills the room when the couple is alone.
The son is responsible, and has gained his privilege when he was fifteen years old. He never abused his time out and had always been a pleasant lad.
Trust is very important between child and parent and a child needs to show their parents they are trustworthy.
The dad is a bit insecure and feels soothing would go wrong but such situations can't be controlled.
No matter what parents try to do to protect their children from all the bad that goes on out there. You can't avoid the bad stuff it is not always possible.
Children learn from their mistakes that is what makes them know better. Nothing can be perfect as you wish or want it to be.
A child and parent need conversation and reasoning to make their decisions right with each other.
Sometimes parents find it hard to accept their children have grown up fast and are now independent and that they can do for themselves.
In this case the last child being the youngest so the dad feels he can protect his son from all that evil that goes on.
He does not realize that lots have changed and individuals choose to enjoy themselves in the modern way, as they want to experience life without interruption.
· The son attends a local college and the dad often asks the following questions:
· What time does college finish today?
· When will you get home?
· Will you be home early?
· Where are you?
The dad insists on his son staying in contact when he is at college or with friends I think this is too much for the grown up who is twenty one years old.
The regular messages via cell phone and the telephone calls are so unnecessary.
Out with friend is a must and that is what a twenty one year old needs.
The son does not smoke or take any kind of drugs he has a few whiskeys when out with friends and that is the only time he would have an alcoholic drink all with control.
Don't let your overprotective parents keep you home with making an excuse of college home- work.
You know well enough to be organized with home-work and stay focused on what makes you happy.
If you are a responsible person there is no need to be afraid of what you do in life.
Children need to build friendships and relationships.
A dad trying to be very strict with a twenty one year old is not worth the effort. It may work out for some families but in this time of life it will not work out as well.
Children tend to do wrong when their parents pressure them into going somewhere or into not going to anywhere.
It is up to all parents to let go of that tight leash.
The rein has to get lose and when it is time to let go off-course it can be difficult letting go.
Do so easily and see how free your mind will be afterward.
College students or not when it is time for your child to explore and meet people no parent should deprive their child of such a challenge.
It helps children know themselves better and to learn of new experiences. In the fast growing world one would feel scared to let their child see such madness. They have to at some time learn to be out on their own and with friends to explore outdoors freely.
- You just got to have the courage to let go.
When I allowed my son go on his first sleep over I felt so good about it.
I knew he was safe with good people and that all would be fine with him.
I communicate with my son daily and this allows me to know what he is capable of. I trust him and know he is a responsible being.
Without communication you won't get parenting right. Respect is also important and if you lack respect for your child you won't like what you see.
Sneaking around your child's computer and cell phone to check up on what kind of emails and messages they have received won’t make you that good parent.
It just shows you don’t trust your child and it causes problems. Your children can end up hating you for intervening in their private lives.
Your child won't tell you everything. Remember that you were once at their age and was less educated about parenting in comparison to the new generation.
The less-educated or insecure parent feels that way.
Only check up on your child if you don't know where they are or with whom they are hanging out.
Your child must know once the trust is broken everything will change at home. Don't should not be forceful with your child.
No doors will be open for you.
Bad influences are also a problem.
Parents must know and be familiar with the friends of their children.
Don't try to be bossy with your child that can make them annoyed and that can cause you to make decisions even tougher.
Be calm, and communicative, and show respect then you will gain their respect. Speak with a good tone. Show happiness and smiles with your child.
· Above all love your child through all times.
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