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Dealing with a Child's Anger Issues
Everyone has the right to get angry at some point of their life and so even a child has a right to get angry for one or other reasons! Now the child could get angry either on you, his friend, his school, his lifestyle, his studies or on any other issues! The whole point is that though we can handle anger issues within adults, the child’s anger issue can be a bit tricky to handle. No doubt even a child has the right to get angry for any reason which he thinks he gets hurt with, but a proper anger management is definitely what a parent would need in that situation to handle it correctly. And no I am not talking about an inappropriate behavior from your child or about temper tantrums. I am specifically discussing anger issues within children and the way to deal with it.
The first important thing a parent needs to understand in such a situation is about a child being angry. In most cases parents fail to understand or recognize the anger within a child and thus misinterpret the message. If a child yells at you, you may slap him right away. Nobody of course would award a child for the same, but if you really know the reason for his yelling than it may help in a better manner to control the situation. Children are known to copy adults and thus they would express their anger in the same way unknowingly. So if you as a parent are bad in dealing with your own anger than the result of this is that your child too may stick to the same thing.
Anger in children
In many cases children don’t even know what anger is, mostly the younger kids. So parent have to recognize the same with a child’s behavior pattern! What I mean here is when a child is young he may not be able to express his feelings in a constructive manner. What would be a screaming for you may just be one way of expressing the anger and emotions for a child. In fact a child who may not be aware of his anger would consider himself to be hurt and can stay withdrawn of all activities and thus make the whole situation confusing. When a child expresses anger he is rather helpless and couldn’t handle the situation in any other way. Teenagers on the other hand can speak out their mind and often make them pretty clear, but the same can’t be expected from younger children. Here parent may need to understand and diagnose the situation correctly by helping the child to feel better.
How to deal with a child’s anger issues
There are many ways which can help a parent to deal with child’s anger issues, few of those include:
1. Try to understand the emotions of a child and diagnose the problems. A child’s age does have to be considered when it comes to handling such a situation.
2. Help your child to express his feelings by speaking his heart out. While doing so if your child cries allow him to cry and be supportive.
3. Handle the situation calmly, avoid yelling and screaming. Spanking will not help at all. Discipline right from an early age is very helpful in a longer run.
4. Allow the child to calm down and then go, talk to him. Listen what he or she has to say altogether, don’t cut them off. Try to handle the situation being together; don’t force your decision on him. Try to hear out his solutions too then try to come out with a solution which works out for both of you.
5. One reason why a child would get angry is because he is rather confused about certain rules that you set out for him. So it is advisable to be rather clear or correct the rules if they are causing the confusion.
6. Learn the art of saying “No” when you have to say it. Don’t keep postponing or making excuses. Make yourself very clear in front of your child.
7. A good hug can always work wonders. No, it won’t take the anger away from him but yes it will help him understand that you love him and understand him.
8. Try to control the situation by adding humor to the situation. But don’t get sarcastic or mean by making fun of your child.
9. Be there for your child when he needs you.
10. Do you break glasses or throw away your stuff when you get angry. If yes, then expect the same from your child. Do remember is the child copies you while dealing with such a situation that is going to stick with him throughout his life. So please behave! Set a good example in front of your child when it comes to anger management.