Dealing with a loved, but troubled family member or friend.
What to do first
When dealing with a problem in friendship or family, I want you to look back to my other hubs and follow them. Assess the problem and the severity ( too big go straight to an officer in community). If it is problem you must deal with yourself, make sure you can fix it, and figure out (proven) that your thoughts are correct and right. After that please look to one of my other hubs and use it as help.
When the template is done.
Ask yourself if you know how or what you are doing, as to not hurt someone. If you know what you are doing, follow yourself. Do not allow violence or hurtful things around anyone, especially the children. Use severe actions as a fully last resort. When you are busy trying to sort through and figuring out what is going on and has been possibly. Only proceed till you have what it takes to get the help you need. Nothing more and get back to the family in need. Make sure when help arrives you prove they will get the job done and then follow everything they tell you, no matter what. Prove, prove, and prove. When you helpers are done, again prove the problem is handled and solved. Finish the resolution and get back to your life.
You aren't done yet! Problem is solved, but now is what to do about what the outcome was. Good or was it bad. If your logic is correct follow it and pick your choice and follow it through. Battle is wound after wound. Blood or not.