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Fast tips on how to deal with children
Your kids do not listen to you?
First of all, you have to know that children are just little human-beings, so do not blame them if they do not like orders and do not obey all the time. In stead, STOP yelling and shouting in their faces and recontact with them in a new calm way as follows:
1- Be their older friend: talk to them friendly, listen to them carefully and encourage them to talk or to express their thoughts and feelings.
2- Learn eye-to-eye contact: if they did a mistake, your first response should be the eye-to-eye contact to show them that that was wrong or that you are upset (Do NOT yell).
3- Say "please" in your requests: this will learn them how to talk in decent and social correct way.
4- Be patient: you may need to repeat your message many times specially in 3-5 years old children and do not rush them if there is something they can not do, just encourage them to keep trying.
5- Reward them when well acting and do NOT EVER yell to them in front of foreign people or in front of their own friends.
6- Go out with your kids: have fun and spend more time with them. Children love and memorize their moments with parents.
7- Read stories: all children love stories which give you more chance to learn them a lot of goodies and experiences.
Your kids lie to you?
Well, you have to know that most children lie as a first-line self-defense!!
Depending on that:
1- Do not fear you kid all the time with punishments if he do mistakes and of course do not scream in his face as mentioned later
2- Try not to create a situation that pressure your child to lie; for example, if he entered the kitchen and broke a dish, do not yell to him directly, he my say " it was my little brother". Just calm down and go to the kitchen then ask him what happened.
3- Reward him for telling the truth and being brave THEN deal with the misdeed by applying appropriate consequence.
4- Take care that some children may lie to escape in their imagination. Those may need more love and care.