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Development Dads - Reverse or Inverse? - Prepubescent
Reverse or Inverse?
Pretty To Think So
I listened to this conversation from my cubicle that day and, like B. Single, just couldn't buy into how easy it was for Steve's Sarah to get this reasoning. Probably because it wouldn't have worked on my Taylor. The only event that made Taylor clean her bedroom without us demanding "no clean - no play" was if one of her friends was coming over to play. The thought of being embarrassed by a messy room in front of a friend was inspiration enough.
The one type of reasoning we tried over and over again was "if you pick up everyday, then it only takes you a few minutes; but, once a week, it takes you over an hour". It became obvious that she was more in a duration rather than time mode.
This also applied to her play area in the basement. She had what would be considered play piles spread out strategically in her play area. There was her Polly Pockets pile, her reading and artistic pile, her Lego pile, her Barbie pile, and her everything else pile. If we told her to clean these piles up and put things away, she would argue that that was a waste of time because the next day she would have to get them all out again. The way she had her piles set up, in her opinion, gave her the freedom to move from one pile to the other without a setup being involved. When a friend would visit, the piles soon turned into one big pile; and, when her friend left, one of us had to help her clean up because the task was too enormous for one person.
As she grew older, she became better at organizing her play area but never her bedroom. So we just kept her door closed until it was "no clean - no play" day (i.e., dust and vacuum day).
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