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Did the single most devastating crisis in your life make you a better person??

Updated on October 21, 2007
Emily, now 3 years old
Emily, now 3 years old

I can say that I have lived through at least one terrible experience, but I really can't say whether it made me a better person or not. It made me a different person, without a doubt. But better? I don't know.

Three years ago, I was pregnant with my first child. I had already had one miscarriage but everything seemed to be going fine. Then at only 28 weeks along, my water broke. I lived in a small town, so they took me by helicopter to the nearest big city where I was put on immediate bed rest. I didn't go into labour right away, but it did start about 2 days later. The baby's size was estimated at about 3lbs at that point.

My little Emily was born several hours later, weighing in at 2lbs 14oz. She ended up staying at the hospital for 6 weeks before we could finally bring her home. She weighed just over 5lbs.

It was a scary time, filled with worry and fear. But at the same time, it was so hopeful. I may not be a better person, but I would say that I have come to appreciate the things that I have and the people who are close to me more. I certainly cherish my daughter, who is now 3-years old. Maybe I have more patience with her because her start was so rough. Who knows?

I don't know if it made me better, but it did change me and the experience will always be a part of who I am today.


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    • Terri Paajanen profile imageAUTHOR

      Terri Wilson 

      11 years ago from someplace in Canada

      I think I have a better understanding of how a child can deeply effect a person. I definitely make different choices now, I have to keep Em in mind in everything I do. Thankfully, I work at home and am able to spend loads of time with her. Everything has to revolve around her. I don't worry about my own mortality just yet, but as she gets older and starts to develop a life of her own, I'm sure I will. And yes, I am amazed at how much I am able to love this little girl.

    • Earth Angel profile image

      Earth Angel 

      11 years ago

      Thank you Terri for sharing your story. And Emily's darling photo letting us all know she is safe and sound and thriving under your watchful care.

      Yes, the experiences you had in bringing Emily into the world were rough. Were you at all surprised by who you could count upon and who you could not?? Did your experiences give you more compassion for mothers in similar circumstances?? Do you find you make different life choices because now you have little ones to care for?? Facing life and death with a child, did you begin to think about your own mortality?? Are you amazed by the huge amount of love you can have for your children??

      Blessings to you and your entire family, Earth Angel


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