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A Child Should Be Taught with Love and Kindness
Being a Disciplinarian
I have researched many articles and studies on being a disciplinarian, and so many writers, teachers and authors freely use the word to elaborate about correcting children.
Now, it makes one ponder if they really looked up the meaning of the word of disciplinarian.
Because it means somebody who believes in or enforces strictly defined rules of behavior. Can one envision a loving, smiling parent who is talking kindly to a child after reading that definition of the word? So, I ask is there a better way to instruct your child?
The Word Correction
The word correction is almost as bad, and by now you are probably rolling your eyes, and thinking what is with this person.
Well, you think about it, because correction means: An alteration that removes an error. And it also means a punishment, especially when meant to improve or reform the person punished.
Doesn’t that sound like a penitentiary? A place to reformed peope and/or to fool the Probation Board into thinking they have accomplished their job.
Teach with Love and Kindness
I have a great word for you it is teach---that means to show and explain. How simple is that?
Even toddlers can learn if one explains it in a soft voice and show them; and then you have—taught that child. You have instructed them in the right way.
My Grandmother Knight was a sweet gentle lady who taught with kindness—she did not discipline, nor, did she correct with any form of punishment. I cannot remember her ever talking loudly, or being anything but an Angel.
My mother believed in putting me on restriction as her way of limiting my freedom. But she never spanked me; however, she was overly protective and very strict with me when I was growing up.
Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child
One of my uncles would always say, “Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child.” He used this scripture to spank his children and I am sure he felt very proud of his interpretation. But how did my poor little girl cousins feel?
Surprise, there is nowhere in the Bible that states to spank or beat a child. In the New Testament Christ talks about this and even instructs Paul about his preaching of the rod. And Paul never again preached to use the rod against any human.
Christ taught and preached with love, kindness and tenderness loving all the little children. And this is what he wanted to be carried on by everyone who believes in him.
Now about the rod, and who used rods in the Bible? Shepherds used their rods to fight off any animals that would hurt their sheep.
They did not beat their sheep with their rod, and they used the staff to nudge the sheep along to stay on their trails.
Therefore the scripture “Thy rod and thy staff shall comfort me,” was written because it was the Shepherd’s tool for protecting himself and his sheep, and to guide and teach them to follow his instructions by staying on the right path.
Christ‘s words guides and nudge us to stay on the right path, as he watches over us like the Shepherd with his sheep.
When a Parent Spanks Their Child
When you spank a child you are telling them. I am bigger than you so I can do this. What have you taught them? Maybe to pick on ones who are smaller and weaker? Isn’t that what bullies do?
When from an early age, a parent can take the time to teach a child. Teach a child with love, gentleness with a soft voice, and they will always love you. An example of what happens when you don’t:
My uncle that I previously mentioned who believed in not sparing the rod was not loved the way a father should be loved. Proof of that he died alone in his home; and his daughters only came to see him when it was necessary.
Their mother died in a nursing home, alone without a child to visit, maybe on Christmas they did. I only know when I visited my aunt she always asked me about her children. It was really sad.
Love is a Seed That Grows in Childen's Hearts
My mother and grandmother will always have my love and respect, because I knew they loved me by the treatment I received. I visit their graves often and so does the rest of my family. They were truly loved and so was my step-father as he only showed me love and kindness.
They taught me with love, kindness and gentleness, and this is the way I taught my nephews and nieces. Also, it is the way I taught children Phonics and Reading Skills in a public school.
I still see many of my children who I taught and although I do not remember all their names; they remember me, and always give me hugs and kisses.
Babies are God's Gift to us
I dedicate this poem with love to all the small children who can not speak for themselves.
Teach me even if I am slow,
My tiny hands want to know.
I watch the love light shine upon your face,
I feel so loved being in your warm space.
Your sweet voice caresses my ears,
Your gentle touch calms my fears.
Teach me to walk,
And teach me to talk.
Teach me to play and share,
With your words that speaks
with gentle care.
Teach me to pray,
So my heart will never stray.
Only loving tender care does
my body show,
And I can teach others what
Teach me to respect and treat
I want to be great, not search in
I will teach others---- what I have learned,
That love is freely given--- it is not earned.
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