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...does it? why? why not?
In this modern world, parenting styles have become so varied that new parents could hardly contemplate of what style they should apply on rearing their children. Some self-help books say that children should be treated with a sense of freedom, a permissive style, so that asking children to do well in school and to please their children would be easier. Some argues that children raised by authoritative parents are most likely to develop maturely because they learned to see life seriously. Some experienced parents also encourage a democratic way for they believe that this would help children face life realistically. However, why is parenting style becomes an issue to many and especially, to new parents? It is because parenting styles dictates how children would grow and later on become adults. It also influences the type of discipline that parents would carry out. Thus, it is logical to say that the quality of discipline affects children and their development. Therefore, through illustrations in the succeeding paragraphs, how important is discipline on children would be given emphasis.
Rearing children is likely similar to planting. At their early sprouts, these soft-stemmed plants should be nurtured in order for them to grow healthy, tall and straight. These sprouts should be showered by correct amount of water and should be exposed to a reasonable amount of sunlight. Its cultivator would even tie them on a stick to serve as its guidance. Imagine if these plants would not have consistent nurture and guidance. Their soft stem may grow thin and their greenish color may be dull. Yes, they may increase in length but their stem might be curled, bent upwards or downward and embracing soil and weeds. Same manner goes if children would not have a proper nurturance and guidance. They would grow up without direction. They would encounter intrinsic crises such as poor self-concept and low self-esteem. Their sense of direction would also be vague. Worse, they would even find it hard to know how to decide for their selves. Indeed, a good training and discipline would allow these children to grow with direction and a sense of independence.
Another thing is that if the sprouts are cultivated well, the tendency is that they would give fine fruit bearings. Aside from giving their onlookers a refreshing sight from their green leaves and flowers, seeing their fruits would delight them more. Much happiness can be seen on the face of their cultivator. Likewise, if children are taught well how to behave and to have moral and Godly principles, this can be inculcated in their hearts. Through this, the parents could trust their children that whatever they do are responsible and appropriate. Simply put, it’s just about giving children a sense of what to believe, the basis for what is right and what is wrong and they can be trusted of the rest. It’s not impossible then that these children would bring honor to their family and most of all to their parents. Upon considering these, it can be assumed that a good discipline allows children to manifest good attitude towards other thus bringing an unparalleled joy to their parents.
Lastly, as these sprouts continue to develop into trees, they would be strong and later on have a sprouts growing at their side. They would not even need to be sprinkled with water for their roots can satisfy their need for water. If these trees could now stand on their own, are their existence in the yard seem pleasing for all? Or do these sprouts hinder the growth of other plants? Will they be able to reach sunlight on their own? Answers to questions such as these would be accountable for its cultivator. In the same way, as these children develop and grow into adults, the quality of training and discipline given by their parents would reflect in their state. In the future, will these children be gifts or pests in the society? Will there be no regrets on the part of the parent that these children were brought into this world? In the part of the children, will they be grateful that they existed? It’s clear then that parents, through the good rearing they gave, may unleash their children’s potentials and drive them nearer to accomplishments and success.
To conclude, child rearing goes along parenting, discipline then goes along child rearing. They have interlocking surfaces that share common attribute: to raise better children for a better world. It is of great certainty that discipline plays very essential role in child’s life. With good discipline, these children would grow with direction and a sense of independence, inculcated to manifest good attitude towards other thus bringing an unparalleled joy to their parents and lastly, be nearer to accomplishments and success.