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How to Discipline Our Child?

Updated on November 13, 2019
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I am a wide reader, I can finish a 400-page novel in one to two sitting, about 2-3 hours only.

Introduction

To discipline our precious children is one of the greatest talent we have. Disciplining our children is one of the hardest task of parents like us. We got married, then in few months and years, we've blessed with kids. We consider this as one of the greatest gifts that we've received from the Holy Creator. However, this is only the start for the test of the patience. I do not know, what I did wrong when I was young to suffer now in testing my patience with my kids.

happy moments of my children
happy moments of my children

Rest day routine

Usually, if I have no work in a day, I am the one who send my kids to their school. My eldest is already in the 8th grade and the youngest is in the 3rd grade. After sending them to school, I am going to face my laptop to do some writing stuff up to 12:30 in the afternoon.

Usually, I am also the one taking charge to fetch them from school. Until one day, my wife was the one who fetch my youngest kid from school at 11:40am because I was busy that time.

When they've got home around 12:30 in the afternoon, we took our lunch. Then, around 1:30 in the afternoon, I fall asleep.

My eldest son, usually arrived around 3:00 in the afternoon. I am still asleep. I just woke up around 4:00 because I heard my wife keeps on reminding the kids of toning down their voices because I am still sleeping. My wife keeps on reminding because they are always on the ballistic talking louder and louder.

Until, my wife throw a piece of shirt to my eldest because he is the one keeps on talking and not following her. But, my youngest was the one got hit. Although, a small piece of shirt is not a big thing that can hurt. However, because of thinking that my youngest is the one to be blame, he's the one shouted, became mad and started to grab anything he grabs, like electric fan, chair, etc.

Then, since, there was already something to attend with, I decided to rise from my bed and talk to them.

My sons

Questioning the eldest

Although, I heard all the things what happened few minutes ago.

"What happened?" I still asked.

None of them answered my question. Maybe, in their mindset, why I am still asking even if I am already aware the reason of the story. I will not stand and talk to them if I am not that aware. So, there is no reason to answer.

"What happened?" I repeated the same question. Looking for anyone of them will answer.

"I keep on requesting to them, not to talked to much and loudly because you're sleeping as well as one of our neighbors is also sleeping at this hour." My wife broke the silence of my kids to respond my question.

"And?" follow-up of my question, looking that any of my son will continue to answer.

But still no one answered my question, instead my youngest son keeps on panting.

And since he is on panting, I decided to keep him for a while and my eldest son will be questioned first.

"Why you did not follow your mom?"

No answer. Keeps on silence.

"As I heard, when your mom, keeps on reminding you, not to talk that much, you will just obey for a bit of 5 seconds and talk again in a ballistic. So, what is the meaning of that?" I started to explain. "Do you respect your mom about your disobedience?"

Still no answer. Keeps on silence.

"I do not know, up to this moment of time, I cannot understand your behavior, you keeps on talking that much. I knew that you are very talkative, however, my concern right now is the issue of your disobedience against your mother."


the brothers
the brothers

Question and answer to the youngest

Then, since, my youngest is already slowing down the panting, this is the right time, I am going to approach him.

"How about you, little boy?"

No answer just like his eldest brother.

"What is the reason of your bad behavior throwing all the things that you've grab. Do you know that those things were too expensive that we've bought?"

Still no answer.

"You know what, I am not going to hit you again with my bare hand, because the last time, I hit you because of your bad behavior, the joints of my fingers misaligned. I suffered that much then until now." I continuously saying it about his bad behavior. "Another reason that I do not want to hear anymore, you've just said it to me, you remember that?"

Silence, however, he is already aware of that moment.

"You must die, I do not need you." With a strong tone insisting about those statement.

At that very young age of 8 years old, he already saying that to me as his father. I admit, I hit him before but I do not want to do that anymore because of what he just said. I got suffer not only my joints even my heart broke down. That phrase, I cannot really accept to hear. I do not know if most of here will agree to me.

I am not really doing that corporal punishment. I just want to discipline only them that time. However, after what happened, I said to myself, I will not do that again because I do not want to hear that once more.


happy moments as a brother
happy moments as a brother

Ended the conversation

We ended the conversation with a one-minute prayer.

The content of the prayer was asking for the cleanliness of our hearts. Asking for blessings as well as their new good attitude will start to show now.

I am a very religious person, but the attitude of my kids tested my patience how to discipline them. With those kind of attitude will test my faith even if I always pray for it. I am not praying for a perfect family, although, I am asking for it to be in good faith.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2019 Luis G Asuncion

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    • Luis G Asuncion profile imageAUTHOR

      Luis G Asuncion 

      5 days ago from City of San Jose Del Monte, Bulacan, Philippines

      I do not know, how to discipline my kids. Few hours ago, I had another sermon to my kids. Hope they will be good for now.

    • Luis G Asuncion profile imageAUTHOR

      Luis G Asuncion 

      13 days ago from City of San Jose Del Monte, Bulacan, Philippines

      Yes. That is true. Kids right now is unpredictable. Thanks for commenting.

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      Crisilda Payda 

      2 weeks ago

      Kids right now is unpredictable with their attitude. Me, myself, I do not know, sometimes, how to handle them.

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      Heather 

      2 weeks ago

      I do not know how to discipline my children, a while ago, they just fought. Thanks for sharing.

    • Luis G Asuncion profile imageAUTHOR

      Luis G Asuncion 

      4 weeks ago from City of San Jose Del Monte, Bulacan, Philippines

      I am exercising a lot of patience when my kids are always fighting. And doing something nonsense.

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      DreamerMeg 

      4 weeks ago from Northern Ireland

      Keeping children from fighting and mischief can be difficult. I usually find that exercise and time outside is the best, as it uses up excess energy.

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