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Does Birth Order Really Make a Difference

Updated on February 4, 2017

Does the actual order in which one is born with his/her brothers & sisters bear noticeable acceptance or denial in today’s society?

"I suppose you are the last one," she said as she called the roll at the beginning of another school year. No one said a word. This was day 1 in Nanny Kyle’s algebra class and all the other kids said she never missed a thing in her class! Kids said she had one good eye and one bad eye, like you know ‘slow’ or something. The older guys said "always sit on her left side, that’s the bad eye side…" I was sitting in the second desk, in roll one, by the door, on her 'bad' side, and I thought close enough to the front that as she looked out over the class she wouldn’t be able to see me over the bridge of her nose with her good eye—

She called the name again, I didn’t hear her, then she repeated herself, louder—"I suppose you are the last one, Sammy—then it hit me. That’s my name; I said "here" She turned toward me, nothing wrong with her hearing, I just smiled. "Are you Sammy?" "Yes ma’am," I said with pride and she ask the third time- "Are you the last one? I had your sister, Peggy, a darling child, then Jimmy and Jackie… Are you the last one?" Then it hit me, she had taught my sister and brothers and wanted to know if—"Yes, yes ma’am, I’m the last one…" Wow, had she picked me a part, now she and everyone else knew I was the last, or the baby of the family!

no one has control over - our birth order

I had never thought of it before- Did it really matter if I was born the oldest or the youngest child in the family… boy or girl? A question even now we may ask ourselves yet something no one has control over - our birth order.

Does the actual order in which one is born with his/her brothers & sisters bear noticeable acceptance or denial in today’s society?

If I had been first born would I have a better chance at life. Would I do better in school, sports… a better chance at success - could I be president, some day…

If one becomes president has absolutely nothing to do with their birth order- even though over half of the past presidents have been first borns.

The "science" of birth order seems to have been boiled Down to"first-borns are driven" and "the babies of the family are spoiled and aimless." But as first proposed by psychologist Alfred Adler, it is a complicated system of studies and observations that lead to generalizations about behavior.

As Reviewed By:

Cynthia Haines, in the WebMD Feature taken from

Birth order tends to set the stage on which siblings are assigned a role.

Is our fate sealed?

Statements and quotes like this do nothing to raise the ego of 2nd, 3rd, and subsequent family members. In other words, if the 2nd or 3rd child never made it to be the president or made it too much out of the ordinary, and the statistics bear this out – then what is left for say the 4th child and those thereafter? Not much reason to even try, right?

So I guess their fate is sealed! If those brothers & sisters in front fail to lift up their peers or pull them out of the ‘doldrums of life’ or "a state or period in which there is no activity or improvement" according to Merriam-Webster, then I guess those of us who are not 1st or 2nd must pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and set out to become the best ‘Hubsters’ out there. Right?

© 2010 SamSonS

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    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks jess, for your friendship, your visit and your nice comments...

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      jess 

      8 years ago

      Cool, real tru. im a peruvian girl a and like to read all of those publications.

      Let us now more about it..

      Rgards...

    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks again Granny's House, glad you took the time to look around...

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      Granny's House 

      8 years ago from Older and Hopefully Wiser Time

      Very nice. I burnt my Rice- A- Roni on this one. LOL

      I agree with shades. Will vote up

    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks DeBorrah K. Ogans, for your friendship, your visit and your comments...

    • DeBorrah K. Ogans profile image

      DeBorrah K Ogans 

      8 years ago

      Samsoms1, Thought provoking hub! I too subscribe to the importance of one's temperament strengths greatly factoring into their ultimate destiny... Thank you for sharing! Peace & Blessings!

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      BennyTheWriter 

      8 years ago from Northeastern U.S.A.

      Sure thing, my friend.

    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks BennyTheWriter, for your friendship, your visit, and your comments...

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      BennyTheWriter 

      8 years ago from Northeastern U.S.A.

      Very interesting hub! I happen to be the youngest of all my siblings, which I'd hope isn't some strange predetermination of misfortune (it's not, I'm sure)! But in any case, I think a person's temperament and outlook on life are the biggest determinants of his or her success, regardless of such uncontrollable things as birth order.

      Interesting subject! Rated up.

    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks Dave, for your friendship, your visit and your comments. I admire your stand for Jesus...

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      Dave Mathews 

      8 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      If one is in line of succession to be on the throne of England, you better believe it matters. Also to be the eldest in the family has benefits.

      Brother Dave.

    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks Shadesbreath, for you interesting observations...

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      Shadesbreath 

      8 years ago from California

      I think your statement about "statements like these do nothing for the ego of 2nd and 3rd" has a lot to it. Frankly, I think the statements can become a self-fulfilling. That said, I think parents do end up in certain "parenting space" or something that has emotions and time and learning curve and evolving understand of what life means, etc., lots of stuff tied up in how different numbers of children impact the physical realities of life and the emotional energy they have for it. Obviously this impacts children, but I think making statements like "Oh, the middle kid is screwed, he's not the first and not the baby" is like cursing the little bastard, and I've heard people say it. Outloud. My thought is just let them live their life in the place they were born and try not to pin anything on their success beyond what is tied to their effort. We get dealt a hand of cards. Just one. Anyone can win, just some have to bluff more than others.

      Anyway, I ramble. But, another interesting hub from you. Props.

    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks Money Glitch, always a joy to hear from you, go vols...

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      Money Glitch 

      8 years ago from Texas

      Yeah, I think we all have to overcome, whatever stigma that was placed upon us due to the order of our birth. Was the oldest of six and for me I've always felt way older than I am. Really think it was the responsibility that my parents placed on me as a child. :) Rating up!

    • samsons1 profile imageAUTHOR

      Sam 

      8 years ago from Tennessee

      thanks so much Rebecca, always good to hear from you...

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      Rebecca E. 

      8 years ago from Canada

      exactly right-- great hub and for me, with two kids who are lovely and as different as night and day, and no generalizations will help them, they are simply who they are... rated up and all that good stuff.

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