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Effective Discipline Techniques for Children
Three Unconventional Methods of Discipline
- Clean bathrooms when you are bored
- Take walks with the person with whom you are arguing
- Sentencing community service
I have been a Mom for just over seven years, but I have been watching moms my whole life. I have seen what works well and what has not. I am still learning how to most effectively discipline our children, but so far we are doing well. I have great kids who are at times just that…kids. As a result, it is our job as parents to remind them of their behaviors and find creative ways to discipline them. So far, we have three methods of discipline in our house that are unconventional and are working out great.
Kids Cleaning the Bathroom
How to Get Clean Bathrooms
If our kids say they are bored, they get to clean the bathroom. One of my older sisters implemented this with her children and I love it! I don’t like to clean the bathroom as much as I don’t like to hear that kids are bored. Our kids are never lacking things to do, items to play with or people to hang out with. There is never a legitimate reason to be bored. My kids can ask for ideas of things to do, but they are not allowed to utter the dreaded, “Mom, I am bored!”
To date, I have only had my bathroom cleaned three times as a result of boredom. I am amazed at how quickly that took care of that issue. Every once in a while I will hear another child tell their mom they are bored. My kids tell them, “If you lived in our house, you would have to clean the bathroom!” and they laugh. The bored child quickly becomes a little less bored.
Children Walking Around the Block
Take a Walk with your Enemy
If my kids aren’t getting along, they get to walk around the block holding hands. I think our neighbors might just think our kids love each other ‘so much’, however it is quite the contrary. There are days when two of our children are like oil and water. We give them one lap around the block holding hands to work it out. When they return, they are either getting along or they take another lap. When we were on vacation, we had to make up a few lap routes since we weren’t at home.
The other day, my five year old son told me he thought he might be getting close to not getting along with his brother and said they needed a lap. I looked in amazement, laughed in my head, quickly agreed and sent them out the door for their lap.
Looking For Ways to Serve the Community
Community service has only been sentenced a few times in our house. My step daughter is now nineteen and managed to make it out of high school with only three infractions worthy of community service. In our house, community service is like being grounded except for the grumpy defendant is not sulking in our house.
We determine the amount of hours associated with the infraction and that much time must be donated to a non-family member. One of my step daughter’s infractions was worth three hours and therefore a neighbor benefited from three hours of free babysitting. No explanation needed to be made other than my step daughter was interested and willing to donate some time to their family. Some neighbors had their fingers crossed that more community service would be sentenced, but she is a good kid and no such luck!
Our five young children have not received this sentence yet, but we know it will happen. If they are too young to babysit or mow the grass, it is possible that some plants will be watered, some dog poop will be picked up or even some weeds will be pulled for another family.
Books on Effective Discipline for Children
Try our Methods of Discipline
My kids laugh about the prospect of being bored. They quickly play nicer when two of their siblings head off for the sidewalk holding hands. Community service has been explained and I think they might be a little nervous. We have found these are three ways to discipline our children and still keep the mood light.
They know the rules. They know the punishments.
How do you discipline your children? If you have some methods that aren’t working, try a few of ours. I don’t guarantee absolute success, but what is the worst that can happen?
- You get a clean bathroom
- Your kids get some exercise
- Some else gets a free helping hand