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Effective Tips to Raise Children With Special Needs and Disabilities

Updated on March 5, 2013

The disposition of children with disabilities or the so “called” special children is indeed bothering and sometimes makes their respective parent’s heart bleeds. Forget about the enormous energy and attention these wonderful moms and dads uses to tend to the needs of their children, but what makes the situation very saddening is seeing their children languishing in sadness and in discomfort. These children doesn’t enjoy life to the fullest just like normal children do - playing with other kids in playgrounds, running all day long, climbing trees and among other things healthy and normal children does.

Yes indeed, life can be bitter but we must keep on moving, and like a the captain of a yacht, no matter how hard the wind will pummel our sails we must persevere to move forth forward and no matter how hard the waves batters our ship we must focus on reaching our destination.

Life conforms to the “Law of Averages,” in other words; we might lose at times but bounce back onto the next to win. Having children with some disabilities and even deformities is indeed burden on the back of their parents, but this is how genuine love will be tested. There is always a reward in the end if parents does their job well and endured the pain, trials and difficulties. The happiness they can acquire while showing compassion at all the times is priceless and will worth all the effort they whipped out.

Here are some valuable tips and pointers to raise children with special needs, disabilities or deformities.

Educate and inform yourselves about your child’s disability and conditions. This will give you a bird’s eye view of options you might employ to cure the existing problems or at least minimize the impact of their disability to the desired potential level.

Learning things pertaining to the problems your child is encountering in a proper perspective to do the necessary things from feeding, to tending to his needs and even staying away from doing things that could harm your child.

Have a positive attitude at all times. The pessimistic sees the hole in a doughnut, but the optimistic see otherwise, that is, the doughnut itself. It’s okay to be optimistic, but also consider being realistic for we live in a real world with real problems to solve.

Help children to gain independence. Its okay to be always besides your child if that is recommended, see to it that he can be reliable on doing things he can potentially accomplish on his own. While trying to instill independence to your child you should have great amount of patience, don’t push him to hard or never get frustrated he ever fail in trying. The book “Special Child,” states: “ A good rule of the thumb is to try to maintain a balance between encouraging independence providing enough assistance to prevent frustration.”

Muster courage, hope and strength from God. Oftentimes we need to face fate of having an aching heart, to make us stronger even further. In times of trials we tend to be hopeful and gets closer to God, this action actually favors you, since according to the Times Magazine “Happiness or related mental states like hopefulness, optimism and contentment appear to reduce the risk or limit the severity of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, hypertension, colds and upper-respiratory infections,” thus being hopeful actually helps us to have a healthy disposition.

Here some other things to consider in dealing with your child well.

  • Converse with the child just like the normal one. Let others have healthy, smart and compassionate discussions with your child.
  • Talk with the parents about their child and try to give some commendations.
  • Let other be receptive and thoughtful of the child’s feeling.
  • Join in the activities of the parents and families of special children.
  • Avoid discrimination but try to understand their situation and instead of giving a laugh why not just give love, compassion and prayers.
  • Teach our children not to mock, or attack verbally children or even the older people with disabilities, for they have feelings too that is susceptible of getting hurt.

My third hub in the April HubChallenge or the 60dc.


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    • Cari Jean profile image

      Cari Jean 8 years ago from Bismarck, ND

      Great hub - we have drawn a lot of strength from God while taking care of our daughter who has cerebral palsy. I hope this hub helps others what it is like to have a special needs child.

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      Gener Geminiano 8 years ago from Land of Salt, Philippines

      Thanks my dear pdh for the visit...

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      positive attitude is the best GH, you got it right there, Maita