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Parenting, a big challenge! How to handle kids without sweating? Is effortless parenting possible?

Updated on May 31, 2013
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How to handle children? Is effortless parenting possible?

Effortless parenting means parenting without effort. Parenting that is natural, easy and stress free. Parents and children enjoy spending time with each other and discipline just comes automatically. Is it possible? Where there are no slaps, shouts, fear and anger. Can we create such type of environment in our homes? Is it imaginary?

The more humans are moving towards high technology, this natural and effortless parenting seems to disappear. Although machines were meant to give human beings more time, but the truth is people today have less time as compared to old times. Parenting is one major area where time and patience are required. However, most people are busy and impatient in new era. They are looking for quick answers.

Parenting has become a challenge. How can we change this trend? How can we again change parenting to natural and effortless, something that we enjoy instead of struggle. Here are some useful tips in this direction:


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1. Love nature and be close to nature. Children love nature. When they spend time in nature, all the crankiness and screams disappear. They play, laugh, enjoy and feel exhausted in few hours. They are ready for a sound sleep at night. They have a good day and good night. Parents can also enjoy and have good day and night.

2. Refrain from using television as baby sitter. When children start watching television, there are lot of disadvantages. They might learn inappropriate things. They can become addicted and be the next couch potato. Children never get tired of watching television, so it is very difficult to ask them to switch off once it is on. So, prevention is better than cure. It is good if television is not used when children are present. Play with them or give them some interesting activities to do.

3. More modeling and less instruction. We need to be good example to children and rest follows. We can save our lot of energy as we don't have to speak so much. We can tell a child to do something ten times but it will still have less impact as compared to, if we do that something one time and show it to them.

4. Applaud the right behavior. When you catch your children doing something right, you can clap, hug them or give them something they like. When we appreciate, the right behavior is encouraged. They want to do the right thing more to get attention and reward.

5. Ignore the bad behavior. This might be most difficult for parents to accept but it works. When we ignore the bad behavior of our children and distract them to something else, they realize that it is not useful. They will soon discontinue and focus on something that gives result.

These are simple tips to help parenting become natural and effortless. When parents and children are happy and natural, discipline and good behavior comes naturally too.


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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      These are great tips, and I know from experience that they do work. Voted up.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Millionaire tips. I appreciate your feedback.

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      mljdgulley354 5 years ago

      Ruchi these are very good tips. I especially like the one about doing something one time to show them. I found working with my children on a chore was more effective than just expecting them to do the chore.

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      sabrani44 5 years ago

      Great hub, thanks for the info.

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      Very good tips. Thanks for sharing!

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      Skiffer 5 years ago from North Jersey

      All great methodologies for child raising - but I hope you don't mind if I bring up one more - Parents need to act as a team and support each other as they raise their kids. And one little tweak of my own for what you have listed as "ignoring bad behavior" - everyone - kid to adult hates to be ignored. Whenever my kids did something wrong - like loosing their patience in a doctors office - or long airplane rides, I would distract them with good behavior - playing "I Spy" - or give them a new box of crayons for the ride and color with them. Ask them what color I should use on the donkey's ears - or whatever. If they finished the coloring book - I would give them another (thank goodness for dollar stores) - but the ignoring bad behavior theory - ummm.... I'm not a fan - I would rather divert to good behavior.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi mljdgulley354, thanks for your feedback. Yes, when we work with them, they learn better.

      Hi Sabrani44 and Kelleyward, thanks for providing your valuable comments.

      Hi Skiffer, thanks for providing your views. Yes, we need to ignore bad behavior and distract them to something positive. We need not ignore the children while doing this. For example, if a kid has thrown food, instead of scolding, we can ask for their help to clean up the place.

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Hi Ruchi,

      LOVED this hub. So true with the rise in technology, other means to do things have decreased such as house work, travelling etc. Unfortunately, our relationship with family, siblings has gone down the dungeon.

      It sure needs effort to cope up with kids since; they do need our attention 24/7. I liked your tips and agree with them as well.

      Voted up as useful.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Ruchira, thanks for your kind feedback. I appreciate it.

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      Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

      Parenting is never effortless and I visited you again since I found your hub very useful

      gotta share it!

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Ruchira for your positive feedback and sharing!! I am motivated to write more.

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      Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD 5 years ago from Tumkur

      Good,Urvashi,The hub has come out of your passionate experience towards your child. Points mentioned here are quite correct.I wish to add some more points:

      1 Tell stories to your child whenever he asks. If you cannot recall one, just create one and develop it. Child wants magic, adventure, animals, and something miraculous in stories when he is young.

      2 Please try to answer all questions asked by the child. Tell tell only that much that the child can swallow. There is no guarantee that the child remembers it.He need not. By by your answers you can develop rational thinking in him. You can develop the idea that that there is a scientific reason behind everything that happens in the environment.

      I am an author and have written 3 books on my my experiences in developing the child.

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks prasadjain for your encouraging words. I like your added points in the feedback. I enjoy telling stories to my child and she loves it too.

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