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Using sex for profit
Is there anything personal anymore?
I have a son who is eight and very bright for a child since he is the only one and spends most of his time around adults. As his role models we always try to watch our language, actions and anything else that could affect his little developing mind. Little did I realize that his little developing mind knew more about the "S" word as he refers to it than I did at 18. Where is he getting his information, I wondered. I would find out soon enough.
When whoever decided to change the tv programming from anolog (which was fine with me since I can't afford a high definition anyway) to digital I was forced to subscribe to cable so my old fashion TV would work. I only asked for extended basic. I like to watch the court and corrections channels, there are 2 and my TV never moves from one of the two. The shock came when I got my first bill, $ 259.00. I promptly called the cable company, surely there was a mistake. My package has hi-speed internet, 2400 channels and a home phone for $128.00 a month. The very nice lady advised me that there was 140.00 in adult movies (Hustler) to be exact. impossible I protested. I specifically told them to block all rentals, all movie channels and especially the box in my sons room. "I'm sorry mamam but you have to do this yourself by hand with the remote." okay I said then just remove all movie channels. "Sorry mamam, we can't do that they are included in your package". Furiously I spent the next 3 hours tediously blocking all the "bad channels" on my son's tv. HA! Gotcha little sucker. I was proud of myself.
Over the next three or four weeks it was unusally quiet. My son watched tv only after his schoolwork was done and without argument. Then came the big one, the mother of them all. "Mom why do women have a fat place in their panties if they don't have a ding-dong?" My mouth hit the floor as did the plate of food I was taking him? What did you say??? He kindly and innocently repeated the question. Where did you see a woman in her panties, I asked. I always change in the bathroom, since he hasn't yet learned to always knock before coming into the room. I sleep in very long heavy granny gowns so he doesn't see anything when he kisses me goodbye before school. "It's on the commerical mom and they have a special special spray for girls for down there when they smell." "Mom why do girls have big ones on their chest and boy's don't?" I was totally apalled at the education he was getting from commercials on supposedly regular channels. Between explaining that when you start to be a teenager you get hair "down there" and women have big ones because we have to feed our babies (to which he replied, (Yuk Gross) , I learned that he had acquired a very extensive vocabulary, including penis, vagina (plus the other thing it is called, and I don't mean cat), boobs and tounge kissing. I do not watch much tv except the crime channels, but I decided to watch for parenting purposes.
I put away all my books so as not to be distracted. I turned on the tv and watched various channels during the day. I saw women half dressed in panties and bra, sometimes just panties, commercials for vaginal sprays (I think if mine smelled so bad I needed a special spray, I would just cut it off) , women in the showers shaving their legs leaving little to the imagination, tampon commercials, birth control commericals, more half dressed women in weight loss commercials than I care to remember and vaginal lubricants. In one day I can truly say I learned more than I did in school in "sex ed." . The movies hmmm, lets not even go there. Please tell me one movie that doesn't have to show someone having sex, flashing their breasts, showing their buttocks (to be polite), or whos moral is not teaching my 8 years old that its so great to be a teenage father as long as you love your baby.
I am trying to teach my child about the "S" word as I feel he is able to understand, that is made quite difficult when he is getting it all through the commercials and movies on tv. I feel after my tv day that we as women have nothing personal left. Everything about us from our under wear to our personal hygeine is exposed. Give me a break, it's not like we are going to not buy panties, tampons, and personal products if we don't see them on tv. if that were the case all the men would be running around "commando" style since they do not show men's underwear on tv anymore. I think these personally that these commericals are detrimental to children who in my opinion are too young too be exposed to this type media. i know that they have to learn it sometime but I feel it should be done at an age appropiate level, by level stage. Commercials like the one above are not exactly age appropiate for children.
Please don't tell me to cut off the cable. These are commercials from regular channels. I have used every parental control available. Antoher thing, you know its gross when your husbands watching tv and sees a "douche commercial" and says "gross." Please broadcasting channels... leave some things private. We promise to still have our monthly flow and buy your products, its just that somethings are better kept quite, especially with children watching.
"Mommy, you lied, they don't take out your belly button with a screwdriver to get the baby out, it comes out your you know." Yes I do know, but probally not as much as my son now. "Mommy why do they have liners for your panties with wings??? Where are you going?"
Please could we just got back to the sex ed tapes in school???