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Sex, Society and Religion
Sex is usually a tabooed topic in modern societies and yet life revolves around it more or less. In ancient Greece and Rome, sex was a recreational and social activity, often enjoyed collectively on parties and dinners. Sexuality is one of the most primal human engagements since human beings exist and although taboos are somewhat negative in many regards, moral and ethic criteria should be preserved, otherwise the thin line between healthy and pathologic just cannot be determined. It is debated by activists whether unconventional sex practices are pathologic or not, but in my opinion, if you enjoy pain during sex or stuffing wide objects in your anus is pretty pathologic condition.
Religion has been very restrictive in regards to sex and a lot of psychological conditions, mild and more severe, are also born out of this. So, total restriction is just as bad for people's psychological well-being as total sexual perversity.
Sex is meant for reproduction, by instinct. But sex also has a bonding and social role as well. The reason why there is orgasm associated with sex is also a very trivial one, this is to serve as stimulus to actually get you to make sex, evolution has thought about everything, lol.
Sex is a great high, especially when you love the person. Sex as a polygamy habit also carries many risks for your health in the face of infections and diseases. That is why safe sex should always be on your mind, no matter how passionate the moment.
Is Masturbation Good or Bad?
Ahh, Masturbation. A taboo in religion, a stigma for the boy or girl caught in doing it, a topic loaded with prejudice and ignorance.
There are tons of ridiculous stories of alleged physical side-effects of masturbation - from fur growing on your hands to your eye balls popping out. All designed from highly ignorant religious minds to serve as fear inducing myths to all who dare touch themselves. And why? Noone can tell you for sure why. Because of the cynic religious piety, because of zealous need to control, because of sheer ignorance.
Sexual desires begin to build in the young organism from about the beginning of puberty. In this period, at some point, the boy or the girl discovers that they get a sensation of pleasure when touching their genitalia. And it is in this period as well when they begin to hear warnings not to touch themselves because they would burn in hell, if they are unlucky enough to live in a fanatically religious family and/ or community.
If you have ever wondered "Is it wrong to masturbate?", the answers is - No. Masturbation is quite a natural thing to do. Something that people have done ever since the first humans on Earth. It is completely normal for teens to masturbate and it is normal for adults as well. Even more so, refraining from masturbation is not something that you should do. Because sexual tension builds up and this leads to anxiety, feeling of unsettlement and emotional pressure.
Masturbating once in a while is actually beneficial for you - as with the orgasm certain hormones are released in your body that relax you, remove emotional tension and balance your hormonal activity. Masturbation is beneficial especially to women, who don't climax during plain vaginal stimulation (as most men don't really take care to stimulate women enough, their clitoris and so on, so that women can acheive orgasm as well) . Masturbation is also beneficial for teens, whose bodies can get so pumped up with wild hormonal acitivty that they can feel serious anxiety if they restrain from masturbation.
For most sexually active, adult men, masturbation is not really required. As they get their orgasm every time they make sex.
The sexual desire levels vary among individuals. Some feel horny and need to have an orgasm (make sex or masturbate) more often than others. Generally, young people have an increased sexual desire than adults over 30. This is because the age from about 17 to 30 something is the active reproductive age in humans and evolution has taken care that people experience high levels of hormonal acitivity in this period, basically, for the ultimate goal to reproduce. And about 80% of humans do reproduce in this age frame.
So, in short, masturbation has positive effects on your organism and is beneficial for you. Of course, as with just about everything else, there is the normal masturbation and pathologic forms of it. For instance, if you constantly need to do it and you are aged 25 +.
Just as with different sexual practices. There are forms of sex practiced by psychologically stable individuals and other pathologic forms of sexual practices, the fans of which cannot be said to be of psychological soundness. In our modern world there is the tendency to accept the pathologic forms of behavior more and more simply as "diversity" and this makes it harder to the average person to tell the line between a healthy mind and the challenged mind.
However, masturbation is generally not in the pathologic categories (Such as the practices of BDSM, sado-masochism and the like) and it is a completely normal thing to do.
I began masturbating at about 14. My mastubation peak years were the ages between 16 and 22-3. Some days back then I masturbated several times a day, 4 and even 5 clitoral orgasms spaced a few hours apart. Now (thankfully, lol), my hormonal rushes largely settled down and I masturbate every few days or so, whenever I feel that sexual tension has build in me and makes me anxious.
Take care of your body and take care of your mind! Know thy self