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Facebook Dad Teaches His Daughter a Lesson

Updated on February 21, 2012


Another viral video is making headlines. For some reason, they always seem to catch my eye as I have attempted to tackle others previously. However, this video is not like most others; this one is controversial. If you are on Facebook, you might have a good idea about the video of the father trying to teach his daughter a lesson. Likely, it has popped up on your feed because someone has shared it.


For those of you who are unfamiliar with the video, it is relatively simple. The majority of it consists of a man just sitting in a chair in his yard while he smokes a cigarette. He is simply addressing his daughter and speaks directly to the camera. The entire video serves as retaliation and a “lesson.” This Texas father is angry because his daughter posted a rant about her parents for all her friends to see on Facebook. He found the post while installing some new software on her computer, even though she had not intended him to see it.


In the video he makes in response to her post, he explains why she was so wrong with what she said. He says he is disappointed in the vulgar language she uses and how disrespectful she is to him, her mother, and stepmother. However, it is not just his talking that is making the video so popular. The controversial part of the video is when the father takes out his .45 and empties a magazine into his daughter’s laptop. On top of that, he posted the video to his daughter’s wall for all her friends to see, and he posted it to YouTube.


His daughter wasn’t the first child to post derogatory marks about her parents on social media, and she won’t be the last. Children rebel against their parents and often go through stages where they seem to not appreciate them. The questionable part of the whole issue is how the father chose to handle it.


Some people have completely supported his decision. They find his actions to be heroic. They say that it is about time a parent stands up to their child and puts her in her place. Or, that she had it coming to her because she is clearly a bad child. People keep sharing the video and encouraging more parents to act like this man.


On the other hand, other people are outraged by the father’s behavior. They aren’t surprised if the daughter is disobedient considering this is the way she is treated. She probably doesn’t know how to act if she has him as an example.


A parent publically humiliating their child is not good parenting, especially in this instance when it is being viewed by millions. Imagine the traumatizing effects this will have on her. She is likely embarrassed beyond imagination. On top of that, destroying her lap top in a fit of rage is awful. Does he think it makes him tough for being able to shoot a laptop full of bullets? Yes, the daughter was out of line with her comments about her parents, but her father was much more out of line. He could have solved the situation much better without public humiliation or the destruction of property. It is shocking that people are viewing this as an instance of good parenting.


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      Dan Robbins 5 years ago from Ohio

      I understand the concerns revolving around this however what is more concerning is that people take a side (his or hers) without having any clue what the truth is. They pass this on saying, "That's right, let her have it." when he may be the worst father ever. Or vice-versa and she be a the child that ends up kicking the crap out of their kid and we have to listen to them cry about the lack of parental control. Best not to jump to conclusions without more insight is how I feel. No poll vote but interesting hub.

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      Sue B. 5 years ago

      Interesting, well thought out hub. Although i agree with Cre8tor, I believe parents of minors have more responsibility than the child. Teaching our child something should not involve stooping down to their level. I am not going to comment if one is more wrong than the other but I will say the method is not effective. Hasn't he just taught his daughter that posting public videos to embarrass someone and use a dangerous weapon to destroy someone's property is ok? It would be my guess there would be more problems down the road.

      The other comment does make a good point though, we also do not know the whole story or what the truth is- this is just a snapshot of someone's life.

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      Joelipoo 5 years ago from Ohio

      @Cre8tor - You are entirely right that we do not know the entire situation, so really we cannot judge them. I hope it didn't come across as me supporting the daughter. I was simply saying that the father's reaction is pretty extreme, and it shocks me that people are taking his side. Thanks for reading.

      @Sue - I agree with you that the father is not setting a great example or using affective methods. That was a point I was trying to make. Thanks for commenting.

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      Laura Matkin 5 years ago from Laceys Spring, Alabama

      People will have forgotten all about this within a short time however his daughter will remember it always. It does not matter rich or poor kids always want more. I imagine it's not as bad for her as some think, other kids probably either feel sorry for her or think her father is 'way cool'. It was a bit childish of him to retaliate in that way however. She posts stuff on Facebook about him so he posts stuff on Facebook about her.... Childish but it got the point across really good I imagine. She will get over it and everyone else will forget about her, her family and the incident on Facebook because life goes on lucky for her.

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      Robin Turner 5 years ago from Western North Carolina

      This video is only the tip of a very large iceberg. Parents all over are engaging in skirmishes with their teens over the use of modern technology. Society is plagued with spoiled, tech-savvy, non-working teens who have every imaginable device and a bad attitude towards the parents who have taken care of them and provided them with these things. My own teens have attested to the truth of these statements based on their interactions with other kids at school. NO every teen who has digital devices is not spoiled but many are. A new generation gap has formed and people are trying to figure out how to deal with it. Bottom line, kids need responsibilities and boundaries and that doesn't end just because they become teenagers.

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      Joelipoo 5 years ago from Ohio

      @Laura - Thanks for reading and commenting. It was childish of him for sure to react on her level.

      @Wise - There are way too many children that feel entitled to having stuff, but that goes back to their parents spoiling it and giving it to them. Parents can raise their children to appreciate and earn what they have. We live in a society where people feel entitled to everything (just look at all the entitlement programs and people suing over stuff). It isn't just children that need to take responsibility. There are plenty of adults who don't understand the concept of taking responsibility for their own actions.

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      Dan Robbins 5 years ago from Ohio

      @ Joelipoo - I didn't mean to direct that to you. Sorry it came over that way and I agree. I was generally speaking.

      No, it's a great hub and topic for conversation.

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      Joelipoo 5 years ago from Ohio

      @Cre8tor - it's all good. Even if it was directed and me and you were disagreeing I wouldn't have a problem with it. I am more than willing to have differing opinions. Thanks for the comments.

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      Sue B. 5 years ago

      Joelipoo,

      I think this hub evoked some great and respectful discussion about this subject. It is interesting and what I learned from others commenting is there really is not a simple answer.

      Sometimes your reaction to an event really helps you define your beliefs and values.

      I realize now that I am against acts of violence and believe they NEVER had justification, I believe with more power comes more responsibily (parent-child relationship), and regardless of justification I think we need to make sure our methods of teaching others are effective and do not pose harm to others.

      It is an interesting world we live in now where the internet allows us to air our dirty laundry globally and the rest of us have glimpses into the intimate details of the lives of strangers. I am going to sign off and value my privacy now :)

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      Joelipoo 5 years ago from Ohio

      @ Sue B. - Thanks for reading and commenting. Like you and others have noted, we really don't know all the circumstances with this family, but we are still quick to voice opinions. Our reactions to other events definitely show our own values.

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