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False parental love
Having children is one of the biggest blessings in your life. They give your life purpose and joy, but that doesn’t mean your kids are perfect.
That’s obvious though. If anyone knows how your kids are deceptive and will play the innocent card to get what they want, it’s you. But a lot of times you can’t help it. These indescribable gifts are so important to you, that you’ll do anything for them. Now, that’s not necessarily a bad thing, but you’ve got to make sure it doesn’t get out of hand. For example, if you’re in the grocery store with your son and he sees a bag of skittles, he might ask for it. But you’ll tell him no, and eventually he’ll throw a tantrum for it. After a while of whining, or whatever your kids do when they don’t get what they want, you’ll feel bad and buy them the candy. It may seem harmless in the moment, but you’re teaching them that if they complain about something enough they’ll get what they want. Obviously, that’s not how the real world works. If we complain to our boss for a raise we’ll get fired.
So, by catering to their every wish you are enabling them to fail in life. Which is not loving at all! If you do care for them, you’ll teach them even when it’s hard or uncomfortable. That’s just how it works.
This false love in destroying the next generation! Look at today's youth. Their not like any other generation that's existed. We're lazy, weak, prideful, selfish, and we feel like the world exists because that's how we were raised. If we wanted something, all we had to do was whine and our parents would rush to our side and give us what we want. We have been raised in such a comfortable environment that most of us can't survive in the real world. There's no one to come and serve us. Instead, it's our turn to work for ourselves and our family.
Parents need to be careful with how much they serve their children. It's hard to find a balance, but it's definitely worth it.