When does it come apparent that someone or something needs to change? When does the light appear that there needs to be a talk or something more needs to happen to settle the feud within the family? For years it seems there has been one problem or another in family. With one side or the other. But there is always someone at fault. If it isn't the exact source then it's on the extended side and is causing more problems than needed. For years I have been fighting a battle with someone in the family. Tried everything...talking, fighting, and gifts, but nothing seems to be getting through. This person doesn't seem to get it or want to change. From little to big the problems seem to be a endless thing. As for me 17 years is long enough.
What to do next?
I have been waiting to find out what has been going on to make more decision on how to make this all a more peaceful place. But, what has been being done just isn't making much of a difference. The outburst, crappy attitude, and poor home making is causing rifts in the whole family. I am the type of person that when something is wrong it is hard for me to be quiet about things. But, I have learned that it's a must do. This person doesn't only have issues with me, but in their own home as well. This person has about the same problem with every person they meet. To bold not enough humble. I have been thinking of ways to solve this problem and what I have come up with is leaving the ball in their court. Make them come to me. Long enough and you know they don't care much or put the blame on them and make them fix their problems. I have driven myself mad in my apartment trying to explain and work a way to create peace. Well here it is....Catch them up in their own actions.
Coming to terms...
At first, I was unsure there was something wrong. Just thought it was normal things or problems in the family. You know the kind you get past. Then as I slowly went crazy realized this is more then just family issues. Things NEED to change or maybe we'll all go mad. I've come to grips that there is nothing more or else I can do to help the situation or the relationship between me and this person...let alone the relationship this person has with the whole family. We have take every avenue. Letting things go, giving them time, talking with this person, or plain old ignoring it. Nothing is working!!!! Well, rasher decision maybe in the near future or maybe simply Goodbye.
Advice and tips
When someone is causing a problem or doing something wrong make sure the problem is addressed. Don't make things worse in the situation, but be sure your going in to solve the problem. Stay positive!
- Try to get a peaceful agreement.
- When solving a problem be level headed.
- Make sure you get help if needed.
Thanks for Reading,