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How to Bring Your Loved Ones Closer with Peter Walsh's Challenge
A family was featured on the Oprah show this week that was completely disconnected from each other. They would go about their separate lives barely communicating and didn't even eat meals together, eager to escape each others company to rush off and check email, facebook, text messages, etc. With all the activities outside the home and spending the rest of their free time individually on the computer, video games, cell phone or TV, family time was non-existent and rarely was time for each other a priority.
I don't think most of us realize how our addiction to electronics has eroded family connection. This show was a real eye opener that I think many families can relate to. Children do not need more stuff, they need you. Sitting in front of the TV or a video game does not teach a child social skills. They need healthy, happy interaction and motivation to exercise.
Could you do it?
Peter Walsh, a life organizational expert was a guest on the show to help this family reconnect. His solution – take away all and I mean all electronics for seven days including cell phones, computer and TV.
I could do without the TV since I already don't have cable. Hard to believe, I know but I do get three stations with rabbit ears (so I am able to watch Oprah). I have a 42" flat screen television which I prefer to watch movies on over television and would rather put my money there than on cable.
Anyway back to this family.... So busy and lost in their own worlds dependent on electronics they had forgotten how to communicate. Along with the challenge to live without electronics, they were given tasks to complete and the first was to de-clutter in order to create a more relaxed, welcoming harmonious household. Another was to make healthy meals and eat together. Taking the time to simply eat a meal together provides an opportunity to come together and communicate. No more excuses with a week without the computer or cell phone.
The challenge was met with some resistance in the beginning but in only one week they became a more loving, happy reconnected family. They said that it wasn't as difficult as they thought it would be and the rewards were well worth the effort.
New rules have now been established in their home which includes:
1. Reduced electronics for more quality family time.
2. Everyone pitching in to keep the house clean and organized. A home where you have just given up and want to escape from does not evoke harmony.
3. Prepare and eat healthy meals together.
4. Hug and say "I love you to each family member at least once a day and parents have a date night once a month.
I believe a cluttered home results in a cluttered head.
Like many of you, I find hubpages addictive and was letting things go in my home. I needed to create more balance and have written a hub on getting organized. Oprah has a saying that "Your home should rise up to meet you at the door" and Peter Walsh brings home that message repeatedly.
Some of Peter Walsh's tips to de-clutter:
- Organization Expert Peter Walsh - Oprah.com
Peter Walsh, a host on the Oprah Radio Sirius XM Radio channel and an Oprah Show contributor, can help you combat your clutter and live the life you've always imagined at home.
Fix a time and stick to it. Haul out any item that fits into one of the following categories.
Anything you haven't used in a year.
Stuff that doesn't belong.
I also believe that our time is a valuable gift that is extremely unappreciated. We tend to take what little time we have for granted until you wake up one day and wonder where did the time go? It's difficult to know how to make the best use of our time. One thing I do know is that packing your day so full to a point of busily running from one activity to another does not make for a happy, healthy person or family. Sometimes the best use of our time is simply being in the moment with a loved one.
When I look back at the happy times in my family, they were simple. Such as playing games, taking a few minutes in the morning with my kids before rushing them off to school and me to work, camping, lounging outside with a good book, cooking with my mom and simply having a beer chatting with my dad. These were precious moments that brought us together. I treasure the memories and strive to make more.
Maybe this is a good time to re-evaluate and start the New Year fresh, focused and free. Clear the clutter from our home and minds. Take the time and effort to communicate and relate to our loved ones on a more personal level and reconnect. Write, send cards or letters. Laugh, play games. Read, share a story. Sit, enjoy a quiet Sunday morning. Awaken to a peaceful calm within ourselves and truly appreciate each other.
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- Peter Walsh\'s Family Challenge - Oprah.com
Take Peter Walsh's family challenge to bring your loved ones closer together.
He says "it's a mindset. It is simple, yet profound". Be in control of where you want your life to go. It's well worth the commitment.